Mom to Brit -- I Have Rights Too!

166. #164/Celie According to all accounts given by Kevin's ex, Shar, in interviews, she has nothing but kind things to say about Kevin...most importantly, about his parenting. That has to be truth because if anyone has a reason to be bitter and angry, it would be her. Kevin did not have reason to "fight" for custody because Shar has been a wonderful mother. She also is mature, had put her children first, and recognized that her children's relationship with their father is priority. I think she sets an outstanding example for everyone in that remaining bitter toward an ex is caustic for us and our children.
Abortion is NEVER an answer. Many of these young people are purposely having children believing that it will cement their relationships with their boyfriends, and occasionally, their husbands. As a society, we need to be teaching children in their younger years throughout adolesence how to grow, mature, and be responsible individuals. Family Life classes in school need to focus on what the real responsibilities of parenthood are. We are teaching children about sex but not putting a focus on responsibility. One of the best ways for teens to learn is to have other teens come into the classrooms and talk about the realities. Kids do not listen to adults because they do not like being told what to do. It is imperitive that schools do step up and teach the consequences of impulsive behavior, poor decision making, lack of self-control, etc. because so many children will never learn it at home. Many parents simply are not doing their jobs for a variety of reasons. There are so many who do not believe that their child would ever be irresponsible. The problem is that "good" kids are making poor choices everyday...and there are so many babies born to children and young adults who do not have the skills and maturity to care for them. Britney is a perfect example. Having children requires tremendous sacrafice....mature adults do that willingly, and it is still difficult. It is upsetting to me to see young people carry around their children as though they were the newest designer purse...or designer puppy! If Britney believed that having two children in a row was going to make Kevin all she dreamed he could be, how sad it is for the babies. Those are all the wrong reasons. She is not mature enough to care for herself, never mind providing emotional stability for her sons. Women need to know who they are and not be dependant on a man for happiness. Marriage, (or cohabitating), is NOT a fairytale.
As for Lynne going behind Britney's back....yes, loyalty between a mother and daughter is important. However, Lynne was watching her daughter self-destruct. She would NOT be a good mother if she did nothing. Britney has been irrational and obviously has mental health issues. As a grandmother, it is not wrong to not only want to get her daughter some help but to be assured that her grandchildren were being well cared for by Kevin. Because Britney is bitter does not mean that Lynne must be as well. I am sure that it was very difficult for her to go behind Britney's back but at the time it was very understandable. Both Kevin and Lynne appeared to have pure motives. They WANT Britney to be healthy, get help, and be the mom she would like to be. That is something done out of love...tough love! Good parents often must make those gut wrenching choices. It is so easy to say that everyone is only out for Britney's money. Money is secondary here. If Kevin had evil intentions, he certainly could have been in court by now seeking full custody. Britney has done enough damage for any judge to look at this mess and see that the children need stability and protection while their mother decides if she wants to straighten out or remain on the slippery slope she is on. There is no valid excuse, no matter how much her fans idolize her. I have read repeatedly so many comments that people should ease up on her...she's young and it is "normal" to party at her age. Well, I disagree. If you are young and want to live the party life, you have no business having children. Certainly young parents can enjoy themselves but it is to be done at a different level in a respectable way. Having children is not a license to continue to live the life of an immature teenager. Having nannies to care for the children is also not an acceptable excuse!
People who do truly care for Britney need to stop enabling her. Loving another person is about being truthful with them,often at a cost, and caring enough to do the right thing...not just tell them what they want to hear. Lynne and Kevin seem to be trying. I am sure that neither of them want to see Britney being scraped up from a sidewalk somewhere, dead. That is the harsh reality. It would be such a beautiful thing for all her fans, and even those who aren't, to write her letters of genuine support, encouraging her to get help and to be forgiving with her family and others. Most importantly, pray for her. God does hear our prayers and He is sooooo faithful!!!! :)

~be blessed and be a blessing!

Posted at 5:47PM on Jul 7th 2007 by dayle

167. Sad what Spears is doing to her mother. I think her mother is very concern about her daughter. Spears does not care, all she wants is to party and get caught with her undies down like a tart. You only get one mother per life time, instead of destroying her relationship with her mom, Spears should try to make up with her mom, at least for her kids sake. To be honest, I think the courts should take Spears kids and have the mother raise them. Any woman shaves her hair and makes those expressions like a nut case, does not deserve to have children near her.

Posted at 5:59PM on Jul 7th 2007 by C.J.C

168. For real....ths is some real trailor park type stuff!!! Man oh man......wtf

Posted at 8:31PM on Jul 7th 2007 by Youallaresuchhaters

169. although i think children should have as many family members around them as possible b/c it is healthy for them, it is aweful what her mom did, if the stories are true, and you can't blame her for being pissed at her mom. she felt betrayed by her - i don't believe that she should ban her from seeing her children, but when you deal with scrutiny on a daily basis and then you can't turn to your own family for trust and support, then she has every right to feel hurt and do what she has to do.....

Posted at 9:24PM on Jul 7th 2007 by Michellaneous

170. i agree with what one of you said - if here mom Did do what people are saying, i would be mad as hell too - is she really a bad parent? how many other celebrities are going through the same or far worse things and we hear nothing? why is she such trash? if none of these 'stories' come out, then would we feel the same way about her... i dont know - i think it all fell apart when her parents got divorced - her dad didnt support her then, and now apparently her mom has turned on her, including the countless number of people around her. so she is one by one cutting those people out, which she should have done years ago, and this probably would have never happened. someone said that her mom may have been, you know, with k-fed - actually, i think her mom was getting a little too close to larry rudolph, thus the re-firing of him again...

Posted at 9:47PM on Jul 7th 2007 by Michellaneous

171. Lynne probably loves her grandchildren, but she's partially responsible for Brit's mental situation. She took the credit for and encouraged her child to assume adult responsibilities at such an early age and now that her child is searching for herself - and at the same time, neglecting her own responsibilities by being selfish - Lynne is bypassing her responsibility to her daughter and trying to "save" the grandchildren, which is a threat to Britney. Lynne should concentrate on Britney's emotional healing and search for maturity (as that is a parent's responsibility) and Brit should focus on finding herself and allow people to help her with her responsibilities. There is a definite lack of trust, here, and it comes from sharing too much personal information with too many people - Brit feels the pressure from everyone, not just family or friends. Poor dear.

Posted at 8:52AM on Jul 9th 2007 by VickiJ

172. we have the power to BANKRUPT HER !!!

when you stop buying her albums, perfumes, etc...the money stops rolling in and she has to start selling selling selling selling or to declare bankruptcy.

only when she is the poor house will she grow up and face reality

Posted at 5:51PM on Jul 8th 2007 by jane doe

173. SWIM CHICK - you criticize Britney's spelling, but you can't spell, either! Don't say they are typo's! You don't know your two, to, and too's!

I Love Britney

Posted at 4:04AM on Jul 8th 2007 by grammar goddess

174. Britney has enough money to retire on until her boys are older, at least--why doesn't
she just take some time off out of the limelight? She seems to need constant attention
from the media and blames her mother for her ruined career and inane behavior in public.

Posted at 9:02AM on Jul 8th 2007 by nonnie

175. Nonnie,
I agree. She certainly doesn't need the money at this point, and should take time to herself - but isn't she? people keep saying she is vying for the media attention, but it's not like she's giving interviews or posing for pictures, it just so happens that the media keeps reporting every move she makes. To me, it looks like she is taking that time, but it's others that won't leave her alone. Oh yeah, and for anyone who thinks she's making excuses and actually believe that post she made about her practicing her 'role' on that photog, you clearly have to believe she was being sarcastic....

Posted at 10:30AM on Jul 8th 2007 by Michellaneous

176. brits got nasty cellulite....and buffalo butt

http://img.dailymail.co.uk/i/pix/2007/07_01/britneyGOFF0607_468x817.jpg

Posted at 5:50PM on Jul 8th 2007 by truth bites

177. Britney, listen to a song called 4am by Our Lady Peace.... you never know when it will your's or your Mum's last day on earth so build a bridge, get over it. How would you feel if you Mum died tomorrow? You should thank your lucky stars you have a mother who cares. Would you be famous without your mum (and dad for that matter)? I doubt it. Have you heard of that saying "don't look a gift horse in the mouth" well you are staring right down the horses throat love, grow up, be greatful.

Posted at 12:06AM on Jul 9th 2007 by AussieD

178. OK, I understand that people are always going crazy over what Britney does, but in the end its HER CHOICE. To many people it is screwed up, and to some its not, but it doesn't really matter what anyone thinks. Britney is her own women and she is getting a lot of crap from the public eye because she is not being, what the general public want her to be. I think its crazy they call her a bad mom, if she was a bad mom she would have totally lost her kids all together. I can't imagine what it must feel like to me her, everyone always watches her, and everyone always has a comment on what she does. Give her a break! I love my mother to death, but she is not perfect, and if the public saw everything that not only my mother did, but other peoples as well, they would think they were bad moms too.

Posted at 2:51AM on Jul 9th 2007 by Kevin

179. Slutty Britt is nothing more than a prosti-tot that thinks nothing of spreading her legs for the Photogs ...Does she not realize that her kids will see this in just a few short years...I predict that in 2 years that Slut Brit will lose any custody of her kids.....
Her mom should take them back to La to get away from thier trashy slut whore Mother.

Posted at 4:18AM on Jul 9th 2007 by take those kids away

180. Now way should that pushover stagemom get a chance to ruin another kids life. If there is one rational explanation for Britneys erratic behaviour it's because her mother dragged her into the limelight and forced her to give up her childhood, her teens, her LIFE just to become rich and famous.

Sorry, I don't think it is an achievement. Look at Britney now - her mother is to blame for the sad state she is in. So just back off, mommy dearest.

PS In Europe we have laws against child exploitation. In America, only money counts.

Posted at 8:22AM on Jul 9th 2007 by redgreenandrea