Ashlee Simpson -- No Baby, No Problem

46. I think most people do not understand WHY she went out two nights in a row. The first night was because her husband was doing some charity thing at a club and she went to support him!! The second night was her HUSBAND's first art exhibit so again she went out to support him!!! She is not going out there to party she's going out to support her husband and be a good WIFE....just because you become a mom does not mean that your life as a WIFE ends. As a lot of mothers should know its hard to make you're husband still feel wanted and special after you have a baby because it is all about the baby for the first few months. She is making an effort to keep her marriage together and be supportive. You have no idea what she was going thru being away from the baby.

Posted at 4:46PM on Dec 10th 2008 by imstbcrzy

47. imstbcrzy---I agree about keeping the relationship between parents healthy and supportive--but she's only 2 weeks +post partum. That is just WAY to soon!! I think this is more about their constant need for publicity and craving the limelight. That she would be willing to sacrifice this special time with her newborn, to get a couple photo ops and free publicity is pretty sad. Again--Hollyweird is just not representative of the real world the rest of us live in.

Posted at 5:05PM on Dec 10th 2008 by MinnesotaNice

48. If you don't already know, babies of this age do NOT sleep all night, they are awake every 2 hours (or less) 24/7 to eat. So not only are mom and dad missing out on quality time with the baby but the baby is bonding more and more with the nanny or nurse or whoever is feeding him that bottle of formula and not his parents (no healthy breat-milk for this little rich baby! Sorry about your immune system, Bronx, momma was busy). It's not as if it was a big event like one of them winning a grammy or something...can't you lay off the clubbing for even a month??

Posted at 5:18PM on Dec 10th 2008 by Jean

49. They were out with Jessica for moral support. Tony & Jess are over. After that game on Sunday he couldn't keep the charade up any longer. Expect to see her luggage coming back to LA real quick. It's all about football for Tony as the team is peed at him. They want her gone. He can't live two lives & still win the big one.

Posted at 5:14PM on Dec 10th 2008 by anonymous

50. Im sorry, but I have 2 kids, my youngest being 7 months old, I agree just because you have kids does NOT mean you cant have a life, but i have yet to meet a mother that would possibly think it is OK to leave their 3 week old child with ANYONE two nights in a row so you can go out partying. If your out partying 2 nights in a row when you have a 3 week old infant then it does say something about parenting... YOUR NOT DOING IT!!! If you have ever had a baby, you'd no that you are so tired you can barely function at the best of times, let alone be out whooping it up everynight! I'd like to have somebody raise my kids for me too so i can go out and party whenever I feel like it too.

Posted at 5:25PM on Dec 10th 2008 by Mommy of 2

51. Geeez give them a break .. my god she was knocked up for 9 months !!! I would need a drink too and to go out and chill

Posted at 7:29PM on Dec 10th 2008 by jwal

52. Its not even about bad parenting - what parent with a newborn at home would want to be away from him/her? Every new mother I know never wanted to leave their newborn and partying was the LAST thing on their mind.

The fact that they are out and dont have to be is what I question. Its as if they couldnt wait to get away from the baby =( sad!

Posted at 7:28PM on Dec 10th 2008 by Kim

53. Are we really all that suprised from a girl who made her career out of the tabloids because she has no talent. Her getting pregnant was just another publicity stunt. Sad for the baby.

Posted at 7:56PM on Dec 10th 2008 by Kim

54. Hey, Electra- I had TRIPLETS and we were using birth control.

It's fine to call someone irresponsible for not using birth control, but make sure that's actually what happened before shooting off your mouth.

Since I had my trips, I have humiliated 3 complete strangers who had the GALL to make comments to me suggesting that hubby and I were irresponsible and that our kids were some sort of "punishment" for lack of contraception. Only idiots shoot off their mouths without the whole story, and only complete a**holes would suggest that a child is some sort of punishment.

Sorry, hon, but you've joined the ranks of both.

Posted at 7:58PM on Dec 10th 2008 by No kidding!

55. Oh, Rocky. I do feel sorry for you. You are an ignorant fool.

I'm glad to hear that condoms are suddenly 100% effective. I should sue the birth control pill company AND the condom company since I got pregnant with triplets while using BOTH. I love my kids and consider them a gift (not a punishment), but let's face it: It's gonna be EXPENSIVE to raise them. I should try to cash in if what you are implying is true.

Idiots like you are the exact reason why there ARE so many unwanted pregnancies. What has sex education COME to in this country? When I was in school, they drove it home over and over again that if you're going to have sex, use birth control, but don't expect it to be 100% effective.

Seriously, Go take a sex ed class. Quick.

Posted at 8:05PM on Dec 10th 2008 by In awe of all the ignorance

56. My Two Cents: Ummmm, you are 8 months pregnant with your first child? If so, maybe that is why you think all the mothers are "ignorant" who think going out two nights in a row when you have a baby who is less than three weeks old is rather odd! I am offended. I had my child at 28 years of age. He is the light of my life. I spent alot of time alone with him when he was an infant because my husband had to travel for work. I didn't get much time for myself and felt that my job was to love, nurture, and protect my infant child. It was a labor of LOVE. I didn't miss my social life and knew in my heart that I would be able to get back to work and an active social life once my child was older and stronger and once I had more energy. Yes, postpartum depression can happen to women but it's not because you have no social life for the first few weeks of motherhood - it's because your HORMONES are out of sync. Each women has a different experience with motherhood and navigates their way through it on their terms but just because alot of women feel a strong bond and don't want to leave their infants with a nanny in the first few weeks of life does NOT make them ignorant!

Posted at 8:16PM on Dec 10th 2008 by twain fan

57. If a baby is sleeping through the night at 20 days old, something is wrong. That isn't normal. Well, I guess if you're bottle feeding and adding cereal to it, or using the "Ferber" (sp?) method it is. Sick.
If she has Post Postpartum as some suggested...uh a "good support system" doesn't mean clubbing! GO HOME! The baby should be nursed every two to three hours! One of the posters on the other thread corrected me on the booze staying in the milk. I suppose that's true, if you wait TEN HOURS, yeah. I was thinking more like a few! But you are right. But geez, ten hours? What is the baby eating in the meantime? Hopefully pumped milk, although this early will cause nipple confusion. Doesn't seem to matter to her though. Oh well. My vote after TWO nights in a row? BAD MOM. JMHO
BTW I felt like GARBAGE when my kids were that age. In my 20's AND in my 30's! I freaked having to have surgery when one was 8 weeks old! Any amount of time away at that age is too much. It's called Attachment Parenting.

Posted at 8:26PM on Dec 10th 2008 by Maggie

58. So, Twain fan: Just because she may not be a mother yet makes her less informed than you? Her post made much more sense, frankly. To be frank, Most of the mothers here HAVE posted very ignorant statements. She called them on it. Good for her.

In supporting their view, you are essentially saying that your own husband is a bad father because he "traveled for work". After all, he wasn't with his kid! SHAME ON HIM!

Before you even WONDER, my husband's office is in our home. Neither he nor I have spent ANY time away from our kids. Ever. Not even 5 minutes. I am a full time mother. So by your logic, we are MUCH better parents than you and your husband. After all, you're talking about going back to work and having a social life. For shame! You need to be with your kids 24/7. What kind of mother ARE you?

Posted at 8:54PM on Dec 10th 2008 by In awe of all the ignorance

59. #57, my first child slept through the night from 7 days. There wasn't anything WRONG with him. I was breast feeding on demand. After two nights, I started waking him for feedings, even though our ped said it wasn't necessary. I never gave him formula, cereal in a bottle, or used that awful "Ferber method".

It DOES happen for normal babies to sleep through the night early. It's just not very common.

Posted at 8:54PM on Dec 10th 2008 by In awe of all the ignorance

60. Come on, people! Parenting isn't THAT hard! For God's sake- I have 4 kids. 3 of them are TRIPLETS, who were born when I was 36. I'm an attentive full time parent whose preemies had no health problems and who are thriving and who is no worse for wear. I guess treating your kids like blessings rather than burdens makes for a much easier parenting experience.

You make it sound like parenting is like going into battle. Good lord.

Posted at 8:54PM on Dec 10th 2008 by In awe of all the ignorance