Jennifer Hudson Still Not Ready to Work

31. I'm sorry her family was killed, but in the music business if you don't move on then you get left behind. For every one of her (Jennifer Hudson), there are 100 girls out there waiting to take her place. And believe me, they don't care that her family is dead and she's grieving. Jennifer Hudson should see a shrink, take some Lexapro and get on with it. Harsh words, I know, but very true. Welcome to the business that is music!

Posted at 11:13PM on Dec 13th 2008 by Darnell

32. Okay, what's with all the harsh negative comments.....is it a bunch of /b/tards on TMZ tonight? Seriously they have to be saying this nonsense for shock value. I truly pity anyone that would honestly have that much unbridled hate in themselves.

Posted at 1:54AM on Dec 14th 2008 by Bullsh!t

33. daaaaaaaaaang, I can't imagine loosing family members like in 2 dead in one day and the next another is dead. Wow. There should've at least been one death then let 6 months pass then another.

What I'm trying to say is, this just slapped her in the face way too quick. This is so sad. =(

Posted at 3:46AM on Dec 14th 2008 by Saquisha

34. Good!

Posted at 5:50AM on Dec 14th 2008 by DJAM just rocks

35. GOD BLESS YOU JEN, HOW CAN ANYONE EXPECT YOU TO GO BACK TO WORK AND BE IN THE PUBLIC EYE SO SOON.
TAKE YOUR TIME DEALING WITH THIS HORRIFIC SITUATION AND KNOW EVERYONES PULLING FOR YOU.

Posted at 7:39AM on Dec 14th 2008 by MELINDA

36. Why is TMZ allowing all of these people to post such horrible negative comments....
this is just wrong....let these poor souls rest in peace.

Posted at 4:38PM on Dec 14th 2008 by Liz

37. its not a question of posting negative comments.. this isnt a jennifer hudson fansite am sure there are plenty for her fans to go and put their 2cents worth on.. this is a public forum so everyone will have their say ... nobody controls opinion , thats why its such a bit.ac.ch.!! to jennifer, i wish you all the best, to julia get lost...you tramp.. making hay and posing with some ugly dude while your son's body isnt even laid to rest properly... evil ...

Posted at 4:58PM on Dec 14th 2008 by noyankhere

38. Julia Hudson should have her big fat ass kicked!! if not put in prison for being part of the murders! Jennifer has lost her family, except for this Worthless Bitch Heffer!! she should be thankful for what she has left and leave this worthless piece of quivering, drug dealing TRASH behind in her wake!! This is not the kind of people she needs to be associated with, thugs, drug dealers, pure undulterated TRASH!!!

Posted at 7:54PM on Dec 14th 2008 by Pochild

39. She wanted to come back to work alright , her Reps discouraged it because of what people would think and say. It would have been unseemly for her to just go on with her musical career after what happened. Somebody had to tell her that. Pathetic. Why am I not surprised ? Her only worry is that her career will be ruined behind what happened. I don't blame her. I would want to forget that my only sister is a scuz bag who outed her family as ultimate low life's Don't worry though, she will be fine. The rich and powerful in Hollywood will see to it without a doubt, until her sister does something else to disgrace her. I have a feeling we haven't herd the last from these train wrecks..

Posted at 9:09PM on Dec 14th 2008 by Shady Lady

40. For #30 - Darnell - I agree that one can't take off a prolonged period of time and expect by be able to just pick up on a career where it left off - this is true of not only the music business, but most professsions (with the possible exceptions of tenured professors or ministers who get a "sabbatical"). And, for many of us, resuming the "back to work" routine actually helps regain emotional balance through the grieving process.

But remember that Jennifer isn't just dealing with the grief of losing her mother, brother, and little nephew, as she would be if they died from illness, or in a car wreck, fire, or plane crash. Had this been the case, the public would empathize with her, wish her well, and everyone would move on. Instead, this tragedy has opened up a proverbial "can of worms." A murder trial will be held in a court of law. and perhaps some actions of family members that may have put them at risk will come to light. I certainly don't blame Jennifer for what may have been the poor choices made by others. Still, we need to remember that she won't easily be able to handle these issues "privately," as some of us might in a similar situation, because of her celebrity status.

Imagine how the media would react if Jennifer is out in public. Instead of asking the typical "what's going on with you" questions.... such as, "Now that this first album is nominated for a Grammy, are you starting work on another?," or "Tell us about your next planned concert tour," or even "Have you and David set your wedding date yet?" I'm sure they would bombard her with questions about gang involvment, drug dealing, her sister's behavior, etc. etc. etc. And, I'm sure that David has advised her not to discuss these matters due to the upcoming trial. So the "no comment" response will only end up instigating more gossip and speculation.

I don't think Jennifer can expect anyone to fully focus on her career until all the questions are answered, so she may choose to avoid the "spotlight" until this happens, and until she herself has figured out how she will deal with whatever the future holds.

Posted at 9:59PM on Dec 14th 2008 by southsidechicago

41. This young lady has had a traumatic experience happen to her, she may not know it but she is probably suffering from post traumatic syndrome and there is no timeline on when or what a person will experience going through it. She needs professional as well as emotional support. For those of you who can do nothing but find ugly things to comment on, may god have mercy on your soul when judgment day comes for you. How do you be happy knowing your family was viciously taken from you, how do you bounce back knowing that a seven year old that was part of you, had to know that he was in danger and noone could save him from this monster who had NO value for life! So if she needs to take another year to come to grips with her tragedy then so be it.

Posted at 8:42PM on Dec 15th 2008 by okthatsenuf

42. Too bad that Julia didn't have the self-esteem to go after a quality man. If only she had felt better about herself, none of this would have happened, because she wouldn't have settled for an ex-con. Yes, the accused is alleged to have committed the crime, but I feel that Julia had an indirect role in this tragedy by bringing this guy into the family home. I feel sorry for Jennifer.

Posted at 7:04AM on Dec 16th 2008 by Dan

43. I know people mean well with what they view as kind words, but the truth is no one can truly know the level or
depth of Jennifers pain unless they have experienced something like this in their own life.
She needs time, and space. She needs people to stay out of her space so she can get over the shock of this.
So please people leave her alone to work through her shock & grief.
This is a process that each person handles differently and in their own time frame.
Two months is not nearly long enough for her to get over the shock of what happened, much less the loss
Go back to work? Please, let her mentally process what has happened first! Then work through the grief of the
loss. A loss she is going to feel for the rest of her life deeply. Only God can help her get through this.
If her friends are really her friends they will realize this, accept it and do what is best for her to be able to heal.
Hopefully she has people she can trust not to exploit her for a good story or anything else for their benefit, around her
that she can lean on at this time for comfort because she is going to need it.
Please! Give her time and space!

Posted at 3:18PM on Dec 20th 2008 by feel her pain

44. I would also like to say that this situation is a whole lot more complicated than many would know or think, looking on its face, and in light of the holiday season, I would like to ask to look inside yourself to try to find some sort of compassion when speaking about her family members, as they ARE still her family members and she does have some feelings for them.
We all know that computers abound and I'm sure Jennifer has one, and quite possbily has been reading comments on boards like this at some time. So in light of that I would like to ask that anyone considering making negative, hostile, or mean comments consider that. If not for any other reason then for the reason that cruel comments hurt, and Jennifer is hurting enough right now. Positive, comforting comments will go a long way to helping her heal.
If you can't find it within yourself to help her heal in any way at least consider not saying anything at all.
Jennifer tried to do the right thing in her life, and that is make a living in a respectful way with her talents.
For that I give her alot of respect.
She has or had no control over other people in her family chose to do, all she could do was choose for herself, and she made her choice.

Posted at 3:57PM on Dec 20th 2008 by feel her pain

45. For "feelherpain" - Thank you for your thoughtful insight. At this time when so many of us are planning for our usual holiday gatherings of family and friends, it's so sad to think of not even being able to go "home for the holidays" because *home* just isn't there any more.

Each day on my way to and from work I pass by the dark and abandoned house that was Jennifer's family's home, no doubt once filled with her happy childhood memories, but now haunted by the horrific tragedy that took her family away from her. And, as I pass, I offer a prayer for the ones who are left behind, who didn't have a chance this year to get those special gifts and toys for their little guy and watch him open his presents. You are right, this is a "complicated situation," and Jennifer not only has to deal with her grief, but the stress of what is yet to come. I wish her comfort, peace, and strength as she faces this first holiday season without her family, and in the months ahead.

Posted at 12:35AM on Dec 21st 2008 by southsidechicago