Balthazar Getty -- What Have I DONE?

31. JAY
I find it funny that you blame the poor woman who have been left by their partners, I have not been left by my partner and I still feel the same, when you are a parent, even a hollywood parent, there is an expectation of being parentally responsible. When Getty was running around Europe and the USA while his wife looked after the children for weeks he was not a good father.
But what my beef is that we never saw photo's of the children before now, I think about twice once with Getty and once with Rosetta, now all of a sudden, because their PR's have seen the response from the public we see them every couple of weeks, leave the children out of this. And since he has just spend a holiday with Miller he should see his children, in fact he should have taken them with him, now that would have been a good father.

Posted at 6:08AM on Apr 27th 2009 by sunseeker

32.
i so love this item...welcome back to reality...
no more luv fest for you...you made this...deal with it !!!

Posted at 10:46AM on Apr 27th 2009 by northern gypsy

33. Sunseeker

I am not blaming the woman at all. What I am doing is trying to take the blame off of the father because every woman faulting him for being an imperfect human being and there is a huge difference between the two. When a woman is hurt by a man and vice versa, immediately immediately that person becomes bitter, angry, scorned and hateful towards the one who cheated on them (children or not) and all I am trying to convey is that that attitude (although understandable) is not healthy for anyone, not for her not for him and certainly not the children.

As a child who grew up without a father living in our house due to cheating I remember all those years and years my hurt, hateful and scorned mother would hate talk my dad and basically all out destroy his image to myself and my sisters. And that made us hate him for what he did. We didn’t know any better as children that he was just an imperfect man who didn’t cheat on us, he cheated on our mother alone. My mother out of hurt, pain and hateful scorn poisoned our minds for so long with her hate towards him.

My dad was and still is to this day a good man. He always loved us and always cared for us our whole life, no matter what he did to our mom alone. It took us our whole lives growing up to overcome our mother’s hateful brainwashing words towards him until we realized she was wrong for acting this way. Now in no way do I agree with him flaunting himself in public in the way he did of course he was wrong and disrespectful to her for doing that and yes of course he should have just divorced her first or made his affair totally private but he is only human and humans are imperfect beings.

In the end it is the children who will suffer. They will suffer because mom will hate talk him and put him down to them for the rest of their lives and poison their minds. All I’m saying to mom is is before you do that to them give the man a chance to prove if he loves his kids still just as my father did. If he runs out and never returns to his kids and is never there then you can crucify me. But give the man his chance to prove whether or not he fell out of love with the mother only or with his kids as well before you condemn the man.

Remember I speak from experience and my experience tells me that all this hate talk my mother did about our father who actually did love us and was there for us even though they were divorced, only made us resent and become bitter to our mother in the end.

Posted at 10:52AM on Apr 27th 2009 by Jay19

34. #33

there's no need for "hateful brainwashing words" here. kids can see everything in the pictures, in details. so your sad story is is not applicable here.

Posted at 11:29AM on Apr 27th 2009 by A

35. JAY19 I agree with you to some point, my mother and father separated and we never spoke about our father, and that is wrong couples separate from each other not the children. And none of us are perfect, but Getty's fault to me was the humiliation of his wife there was no need for that, it tells me thast Getty had no repect for the mother of his children, he should have separated and then started his relationship with Miller. I think he owed his wife some thought and feeling, he spoke highly of his wife before this affair started, and remember his youngest was only a few month old and he wanted the large family. Separate with class and show your children you have at least some interity and respect for their mother.

Posted at 11:37AM on Apr 27th 2009 by sunseeker

36. Sunseeker

I absolutely agree with you. He was wrong, absolutely disrespectful and a scum bag to her for what he did and because of the way he did it. No question his wife (and any person) deserves much much more respect, courtesy and loyalty than what he gave. I am not disputing he is a scum bag husband, you are totally right. I am simply saying that if the mother passes on her (totally understandable) hate onto her children it will only hurt them the most in the end and they will end up being resentful and bitter towards her for it. Especially if the father proves to the children and to the world that he does love them and does want to be there for them always....

But I also must understand that all human beings are not perfect and women are extremely hard to resist, even for someone like me who went through what I did growing up and vows never to cheat on women. I still from time to time have to force myself to walk away from situations I know I can't handle. The feelings I have are not because I do not love my girl fully it is because men are driven inside with this feeling to seek and conquer. And the hardest thing a man will ever have to conquer in his life is controlling the feeling itself of wanting to conquer women….I’m just being totally honest with you

But believe me when I say in no way do I agree with cheating on someone period. And nor do I agree with the total disregard he showed to his wife’s feelings by making it so public. I realize he knew that he was in the public’s eye and that this could turn much uglier for him as opposed to a normal person who is not in the public’s eye, and yet he still did it .All I’m saying is for the kids sake if the mom does not find it within herself to let her hurt, anger and bitterness go she will be miserable for the rest of her life and possibly hurt her children (inadvertently and unknowingly) in the end because of it.

Posted at 12:17PM on Apr 27th 2009 by Jay19

37. Sunseeker

I absolutely agree with you. He was wrong, absolutely disrespectful and a scum bag to her for what he did and because of the way he did it. No question the wife (and any person) deserves much much more respect, courtesy and loyalty than what he gave. I am not disputing he is a scum bag husband, you are totally right. I am simply saying that if the mother passes on her (totally understandable) hate onto her children it will only hurt them the most in the end and they will end up being resentful and bitter towards her for it. Especially if the father proves to the children and to the world that he does love them and does want to be there for them always....

But I also must understand that all human beings are not perfect and women are extremely hard to resist, even for someone like me who went through what I did growing up and vows never to cheat on women. I still from time to time have to force myself to walk away from situations I know I can't handle. The feelings I have are not because I do not love my girl fully it is because men are driven inside with this feeling to seek and conquer. And the hardest thing a man will ever have to conquer in his life is controlling the feeling itself of wanting to conquer women….I’m just being totally honest with you

But believe me when I say in no way do I agree with cheating on someone period. And nor do I agree with the total disregard he showed to his wife’s feelings by making it so public. I realize he knew that he was in the public’s eye and that this could turn much uglier for him as opposed to a normal person who is not in the public’s eye, and yet he still did it .All I’m saying is for the kids sake if the mom does not find a way to find it within herself to let her hurt, anger and bitterness go she will be miserable for the rest of her life and possibly hurt her children (inadvertently and unknowingly) in the end because of it.

Posted at 12:23PM on Apr 27th 2009 by Jay19

38. If this guy is so rich, how come he and the kids are dressed like welfare cases?

Posted at 4:56PM on Apr 27th 2009 by R.Zimmerman

39. Oh yeah he's a real good dad! Telling his kids that their mother wasn't good enough for him and betraying her in public and breaking her heart shouldn't have ANY lasting effects.

Posted at 8:26PM on Apr 27th 2009 by ITasteLikeChicken

40. #27

Are you are a complete moron or a radical muslim? Please kill yourself before you have children.

How he could pretend he cares for his children at all after humliating their mother in a despicable fashion is beyond me. What a rat!!

Posted at 11:29PM on Apr 27th 2009 by Dublin

41. Miller is in the Congo doing her Jolie bit, what a laugh, if she had done this before the affair I might have had some respect but this is all damage control and that is why Getty is seeing so much of his children, Miller is otherwise engaged, their PR's have really worked overtime on this. Miller is going to say that this has changed her life and she is a changed woman, balony to both of them

Posted at 8:24AM on Apr 28th 2009 by sunseeker

42. you need to leave him alone. you guys don't even know him. so just stop talkin about him behind his back.

Posted at 10:28AM on Apr 28th 2009 by danielle

43. DANIELLE
We are not talking behind his back, he can read this any time he wants ,and you don't know him either. We have an opinion and so have you, I don't interfere in yours so leave my opinion alone.

Posted at 2:11PM on Apr 28th 2009 by sunseeker

44. OMG! I cannot believe all the negative comments about Balthazar Getty. The fact he has fondled Sienna Miller and cheated on his wife in no way makes him a bad father. For whatever reason and whoevers fault his wife and himself were not happy - he found comfort and a whole lot more with Sienna Miller and because of our hounding press in this world he was caught on camera. I say "SHAME ON THE PAPS FOR PRINTING IT!". Leave the guy alone, he loves his kids and is trying his best. I hope and pray his kids dont read all these silly comments and question his love for them becasue frankly SHAME ON YOU ALL.

Posted at 2:51PM on Apr 28th 2009 by Ava

45. "But give the dude his props -- he's a real good dad."

Bull crap. If he were a good dad, he'd still be with their mother instead of schtuping Sienna Miller.

Posted at 4:09PM on Apr 28th 2009 by Whatever