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Arnold and Maria's Split -- A Long Time Coming

5/10/2011 5:16 AM PDT BY TMZ STAFF

Maria Shriver has been "miserable" in her marriage for a long, long time, sources connected with the couple tell TMZ ... and it's all about Arnold Schwarzenegger's "craziness."

Arnold Schwarzenegger Divorce

We're told Maria moved out of the couple's L.A. mansion months ago.  Sources tell us she's been extremely unhappy in her marriage for years, complaining about Arnold's out of control ego, as well as his womanizing.

We're also told Maria feels Arnold has ignored her for years and she's felt terribly unappreciated.

Sources say the couple has spent "very little time together" for several years.  Maria was frequently absent from Sacramento while Arnold was Governor. 

The situation got worse once Arnold left office and decided he wanted to resurrect his movie career.  Maria felt Arnold was becoming more erratic -- more "unstable." 

Our sources say Maria's religious views caused her deep distress over whether to split and/or divorce.   As one source put it: "She's been a lost soul for a long time."


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Maria -- Contemplated Divorce for Nearly 2 Years


Maria Shriver has been deciding whether to DIVORCE Arnold Schwarzenegger since 2009 ... but sources with direct knowledge tell TMZ, she's been "extremely conflicted."

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We're told Maria has been unhappy with Arnold for years ... and first planned to split with him back in 2009 ... but her mother passed away and Maria decided to hold off.

Then, we're told, Maria wanted to try to break it off again in January 2011 ... but her father died ... once again putting the split on hold.

Our source tells us Maria is fed up with Arnold's infidelities ... coupled with the fact he's been "impossible" to live with. We're told Maria's kids acknowledge the issues -- and have pushed their mother to call off the marriage.

People who have spoken with Maria tell us ... despite her STRONG public persona, Maria has become a "shell of the woman" she appears to be because she is "terrified" of Arnold ... but in an emotional, not a  physical way.

However, once Maria finally decided to separate from Arnold  -- and moved into a fancy Beverly Hills hotel -- we're told Arnold pulled a 180 ... and he's been "working extremely hard" to win her back.  As one source says, "He could not be sweeter now that she's left him."

To make things even more complicated, Arnold and Maria have been spending LOTS of time together lately ... hanging out during Easter, Mother's Day and even their 25th anniversary ... which they celebrated together at an expensive hotel.

A source close to the couple tells us ... despite their differences, Arnold and Maria have "serious chemistry between them" ... which is why she has such ambivalence about the break-up.

But ambivalence aside, Maria has been "miserable" in the marriage and has taken a big step to end the relationship.


Arnold Schwarzenegger -- The Ring Disappears


Hours before the world knew about his separation ... Arnold Schwarzenegger broke out his street bike and went for a ride with his bodyguard in L.A. yesterday ... sans wedding ring.

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But Arnold WAS wearing his ring on Sunday ... the day before the couple announced their split.

Meanwhile, Maria Shriver has been ringless since mid-March ... right after Maria posted a cryptic video on YouTube asking her fans for advice on how to "transition" into the next phase of her life.051011_maria_shriver_still



As you already know, Arnold and Maria announced their separation last night ... and in their statement, they claimed they've been living apart for several weeks.


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419 COMMENTS

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376.

steven    

they both ruined california, so screw both of them...

1232 days ago
377.

howard    

Maria got tired of the steriod king not being able to give her what she needs. Noid on roids.

1232 days ago
378.

james Boyd    

Only idiots and media-type perverts care for such things.
The media loves trash because they are also trash.

1232 days ago
379.

Lori Hyde    

I went through it after waiting a long time as well. It hurt like the burning fires of Hell in my soul. Couldn't wait to get free, then I had no idea how hard it was & even though I know now I would still do it again. Cause like you, he was fooling around with every piece he could find, mostly paying for it cause he's not famous but he is rich. But I have two daughters and they needed to see me as a success story not pathetic. Females will role model their mother, so you are setting them up for how they should handle their lives. Yet it's very important for them to keep a healthy relationship with their father cause that tells them how men should be loving them, if they are good enough. I had no role model for that, so that's why I picked men like the one who cheated on me, after years of therapy I felt unlovable and reached for men that made me feel the same way unlovable. So don't destroy their relationship with their despicable father. They can decide later if he is worth keeping in their lives. But they should know he loves them very much & sees them as valuable. Someone made you pick a man you knew would cheat, as did I. Maria, don't date for at least one year. Kids feel they've lost their father while living with you, so don't let your attention drift to another man for awhile. Then they are fearful they are losing both of you, be totally loving with only your kids. No dating, find the beauty in Maria the first year and come out the other side, very self-sufficent emotionally. Find a hobby, not dating, girlfriends are good, but not out clubbing and don't let anyone set you up cause you will pick someone who fits in the mode of your self anger that you will be beating yourself up with for the first year. Then after waiting you will find a good man to settle down with. After you love yourself enough to make sure he is a good person that deserves you, a wonderful woman!

1232 days ago
380.

JugEars McKenyan Sr..    

She is a skeletor looking chick, she's bone thin in the face and always looked malnourished to me..

I Won't Be Baaackkk, Ahhhhnald ;)

1232 days ago
381.

Miner49er    

Arnold got what he deserves for betraying his principles. No doubt all the global warming dorks are very pleased.

1232 days ago
382.

hank    

He Be Back

1232 days ago
383.

Tim-o-rama    

Maria is a total drama queen. Who could live with that constant whining and selfishness. She always puts the whole country through her drama an "what she is currently going through." Anorexics are mental cases.

1232 days ago
384.

jim    

She looks like a LOAD to me.
Good for you Arnold.
You know her family never liked you anyway.

1232 days ago
385.

Fed Up    

Having the ring on his finger didn't keep him from straying before whats the dif. Also I can believe he is crazy but her rant on line shows she isn't all that stable either. Now we are going t be inundated with crap stories about their supposed affairs and such. A lady would have just gone her way quietly and stayed out of the limelight. poor kids I feel sorry for what they will be seeing and reading in the magazines now.

1232 days ago
386.

Vince    

Oh who cares! They are both so over the hill why do they bother?

1232 days ago
387.

hank    

he likes to grope

1232 days ago
388.

Sashland    

"unstable" = steroids

1232 days ago
389.

BS McEwen    

Getting married is easy; staying married is NOT. Have faith, hope and charity. Remember the vows. Negotiate. Let the God of your understanding be the final arbiter. The 11th Commandment: Never Give Up! We all have choices: Don't Worry, Be Happy . . . Aloha.

1232 days ago
390.

EZONMYI    

As usual. The woman is the "victim" of the terrifying man. I am sure she never did a thing to contribute to the demise of their marriage either. How does the old saying go? You can't shut me off if you don't know where I am getting it? Ditch her Arnold and find someone that appreciates the things you do offer, instead of what you don't.

1232 days ago
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