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Lindsay Lohan's alleged nightclub assault -- and her weekend-long partying -- will not scare off the producers who hired her to play Elizabeth Taylor.

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47. Thought-Stopping Language. Thought-terminating clichés and slogans.
A.A. scores a 10.
The use of lots of thought-stopping slogans and clichés is one of Dr. Robert Jay Lifton's eight essential conditions for a "thought reform" (brainwashing) program.
A.A. has so many slogans and thought-stopping clichés that I can only paraphrase the Bible: "Our name is Legion, for we are so many." Alcoholics Anonymous has to be the world's champion for slogans; I just cannot think of any other cult or organization that has more slogans.

Many of the slogans contradict with each other, so you can sometimes quote a slogan for whichever side of an issue you wish to take. Also notice how many of them are negative, and condescending or demeaning to the newcomer alcoholics. That helps in the cult conversion process, breaking down the minds and wills of newcomers.


"It isn't religious, it's spiritual."
"Religion is for people who are afraid of going to Hell; Spirituality is for people who've been there."
"Nobody comes here by accident."
"If you drunk enough to come to A.A., you've drunk enough."
"You're exactly where you're supposed to be."
"You are exactly where God wants you to be."
"Came, came to, came to believe."
"Think."
"Think, Think, Think."
"Don't Drink and Don't Think!"
"Don't drink, don't think and go to meetings.
"Don't drink, don't think, and don't get married."
"Stop Your Stinkin' Thinkin'."
"Stinkin' thinkin' leads to stinkin' drinkin'!"
"Your thinking is alcoholic."
"Your best thinking got you here."
"The three most dangerous words for an alcoholic — 'I've been thinking'"
"The 7t's — Take Time to Think The Thing Through."
"3 A's in A.A. — affection/attention/appreciation"
"You have a thinking problem, not a drinking problem."
"We have a living problem, not a drinking problem."
"You can act yourself into thinking right easier than you can think yourself into acting right."
"If I think, I won't drink. If I drink, I can't think."
"Some people drink normally, and I normally drink."
"Don't drink or use between breaths."
"Don't go into your mind alone; it's not a safe neighborhood."
"Don't go in your head alone. It's a dangerous neighborhood."
"Don't Intellectualize, Utilize."
"The only stupid question is the one you don't ask."
"Intolerance = Contempt, prior to investigation."
"Just Don't Drink, Dummy!"
"Keep the plug in the jug."
"A grateful alcoholic never drinks."
"Take it One Day at a Time!"
"I've been here a few 24 hours."
"Slow but sure."
"Give time time."
"You have to put in the time."
"Try it for 90 days, and if you don't like it, we'll gladly refund your misery."
"This, too, shall pass."
"I can do something for 24 hours that would appall me if I had to keep it up for a LIFETIME."
"Keep An Open Mind."
"Don't Compare — Identify!"8
"Don't intellectualize — utilize."
"Analysis is paralysis."
"It don't matter how your jackass got in a ditch, just get him out."
"Take What You Want, and Leave the Rest."
"Take what you can use and leave the rest."
"It's Bill's way or the you'll get killed way."
"It's our way or the highway."
"No one person defines what AA is for anyone but himself.."
"Lead us not into temptation. I can find it myself."
"Don't let them live rent-free in your head."
"Don't let unpleasant people rent space in your head."
"When your head begins to swell your mind stops growing."
"You need a checkup from the neck up."
"You are in denial."
"When we think we are in control of our own lives we are living in denial."
"When a person tries to control their drinking they have already lost control."
"The lesson I must learn is simply that my control is limited to my own behavior, my own attitudes."
"When we couldn't dominate, control, or manipulate, we would ask for terms and conditions."
"People who are wrapped up in themselves make a very small package indeed..."
"You're only one drink away from a drunk."
"One drink is too many, a thousand is not enough."
"AA does not leave US — We leave AA."
"If you leave, you'll come back on your knees."
"Are you in AA or around AA?"
"This is a program of rigorous honesty."
"Fake it until you make it."
"Fake it 'til you make it."
"Act As If..."
"Act as if you really believe..."
"What If..."
"If Only..."
"Yeah but..."
"You're better off in here pretending you are an alcoholic, than out there pretending you're not."
"Without A.A., it's Amen."
"If you drink, your fate is jails, institutions, or death."
"If you leave A.A., your fate is jails, institutions, or death."
"I've been in jails; I've been in institutions; there's only one more place to go."
"The bottle, big house, or the box."
"Death, insanity, or recovery."
"Always remember the insanity...Be thankful for the pain...But most of all be thankful for the days that remain."
"We have a choice."
"We don't get run over by the train, we get hit by the engine (1st. drink)."
"I've been sober and I've been drunk. Sober's better."
"A.A. is the highest priced club in the world. If you have paid the dues, why not enjoy the benefits?"
"A.A. is the last stop on the train."
"A.A. is the last house on the street."
"Insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different outcome."
"Insanity is the seeming inability to learn from past mistakes."
"Daniel didn't go back to the lion's den to get his hat."
"We have no opinion on outside issues."
"Don't let anything get in front of your recovery."
"You must be willing to go to any length for your sobriety."
"Where do I find sobriety? Twelve steps past any lengths."
"The road to sobriety is a simple journey for confused people with a complicated disease."
"If you find a path with no obstacles, it probably doesn't lead anywhere."
"It's too early in your recovery for you to start being creative."
"Try not to place conditions on your sobriety."
"Easy Does It."
"Easy Does It, But Do It."
"Live life on life's terms."
"Don't Procrastinate."
"God is Good Orderly Direction."
"God is a Group Of Drunks."
"Anything can be your Higher Power: a teacup, a doorknob, a stone."
"God Will Never Give You More Than You Can Handle."
"God never gives you more than you can handle."
"God will only do for you what you can't do for yourself."
"Remember nothing is going to happen today that you and God can't handle."
"Let Go and Let God."
"Get out of the driver's seat and let God."
"Our Need Is God's Opportunity."
"Quit Playing God."
"EGO = Easing God Out."
"EGO = Edging God Out."
"Faith is hope with a track record."
"Faith is spelled A-C-T-I-O-N."
"Faith without works is dead."
"Faith is not belief without proof but trust without reservation."
"F.A.I.T.H. = Fantastic Adventure in Trusting Him."
"To Keep It, You Have To Give It Away."
"Alcoholics Anonymous requires no beliefs."
"I came, I came to, I came to believe."
"Your Heavenly Father will never let you down!"
"A.A. never opened the gates of Heaven to let me in, A.A. did open the gates of Hell to let me out."
"A.A. isn't a religion, we can't open the gates of Heaven and let you in, but we can open the gates of Hell and let you out."
"Group Up and Give Up."
"Put down the weapons, pick up the tools."
"A.A. gives you the tools you need to maintain sobriety."
"A.A. gives you the tools to change."
"Uncover, Discover, Discard."
"The choice I have today is either to be Contented or Demented."
"You make the changes necessary in yourself to find peace otherwise you will drink."
"It's very difficult to have a belly full of beer when you already have a head full of AA."
"With a stomach full of A.A., you won't have room for a beer."
"A.A. isn't for everybody."
"She came through the back door of A.A. (Alanon)."
"It's Our Way or the Die Way."
"Expect a miracle."
"Expect miracles!"
"I am a walking miracle."
"Possibilities and miracles are one in the same."
"You Are Not Alone."
"Count Your Blessings."
"Live and Let Live."
"Keep Coming Back."
"Keep Coming Back. It Works!"
"It Works If You Work It."
"Work It, You're Worth It."
"WISDOM = Words In Steps Do Open Minds."
"The Twelve Steps are but suggestions only."
"There are no requirements in A.A., only suggestions."
"You are not required to like it, you're only required to DO it."
"It is suggested that you Work The Steps, just like how, if you jump out of an airplane with a parachute, it is "suggested" that you pull the ripcord to save your life.
"Minds are like parachutes — they won't work unless they're open."
"The elevator is broken — use the Steps."
"You don't have to wait till the basement to get off the down elevator."
"Work the Steps, Or Die!"
"Do The Steps or Die."
"Share Or Die."
"Share your happiness."
"Talk Or Die."
"Share your pain."
"Change Or Die."
"The AA waltz: steps 1, 2, 3."
"The steps: Give up (1,2,3) Clean up (4,5,6) Make up (7,8, 9) Keep up (10,11,12)."
"The 12 steps: Clear up (1,2,3), Clean up (4,5,6,7,8,9), Group up: (10,11,12)."
"There are 12 steps in the ladder of complete sobriety."
"The easier softer way is one through twelve."
"There's safety in numbers. One through twelve."
"A.A. is the easier, softer way."
"No one can take credit for their own sobriety any more than a drowning person can take credit for grasping a life preserver. Nor can anyone take credit for another person's sobriety any more than the person throwing a life preserver to a drowning person can take credit that it floats."
"Keep your sobriety first to make it last."
"Our worst day in sobriety is better than our best day drinking."
"Sobriety is a gift, the price of which is eternal vigilance."
"Sobriety: Takes a minute to learn, a lifetime to master."
"Sobriety delivers everything alcohol promised."
"Sobriety, then serenity."
"My daily sobriety is contingent on my spiritual condition."
"The person with the most sobriety at a meeting is the one who got up earliest that morning."
"If you don't work a Fourth you'll drink a fifth."
"A.A. is the last house on the street."
"A.A. is the Last Stop on the Track."
"Directions to AA: Just go straight to hell and make a U-turn."
"The surest way to AA is to first go all the way to hell."
"Higher Powered."
"My Higher Power was: To Whom It May Concern."
"Stuff Your Feelings."
"Feelings Aren't Facts."
"I Don't Do Feelings."
"All you need to start a meeting is a pot of coffee and a resentment."
"Sympathy is between **** and syphilis in the dictionary."
"Anger Is But One Letter Away From Danger."
"Get Off The Pity Pot."
"You have already relapsed and you are planning your next drink."
"An ounce of prevention is worth a gallon of relapse."
"Don't romance the drink."
"Selfishness, self-centeredness, that we feel is the root of all our troubles."
"It's a shame we can't forget our troubles the same way we forget our blessings."
"Don't Take Somebody Else's Inventory."
"FEAR = False Evidence Appearing Real."
"FEAR = False Expectations Appearing Real."
"FEAR = Frantic Effort to Appear Recovered."
"FEAR = F*** Everything And Run, or Face Everything and Recover."
"FEAR = Frustration, Ego, Anxiety, Resentment."
"FINE = F--ked-up, insecure, neurotic, and emotional."
"G.O.D.=Group of Drunks."
"In A.A. I get an owner's manual to go with my new life."
"N.U.T.S.=Not Using the Steps"
"Y.E.T.=You eventually, too"
"First things first"
"D.E.N.I.A.L. = Didn't Even Notice I Am Lying."
"HALT: Don't get too Hungry, Angry, Lonely, or Tired."
"KISS = Keep It Simple, Stupid."
"TRUST = Try Using the Steps."
"TRUST = Try Relying Upon The Steps."
"AA = Altered Minds."
"H.I.T. = Hang In There."
"Believing in God Beats Our Old Knowledge."
"BIG BOOK = Believing In God Beats Our Old Knowledge."
"Knowledge of the answers never made anyone slip — it was failing to practice the answers known."
"CRAP = Carry Resentments Against People."
"PRIDE = Personal Recovery Involves Defeating Ego."
"PMS = Poor Me Syndrome."
"PMS = Pour More Scotch."
"SLIP = Sobriety Loses Its Priority."
"SPONSOR = Service Person Offering Newcomers Suggestions On Recovery."
"STEPS = Solutions To Every Problem in Sobriety."
"STEPS = Solutions To Every Problem, Sober."
"Principles Before Personalities."
"You need a meeting."
"Many meetings, many chances. A few meetings, a few chances. No meetings, no chance."
"You don't have to wait till the basement to get off the down elevator."
"Those that don't go to meetings aren't present to find out what happens to those who don't go to meetings."
"When you are in a meeting, your disease is outside doing push-ups."
"My disease is doing pushups, getting stronger — just waiting for me to slip."
"A newcomer is someone with less than five years sobriety."
"Addiction is the only disease that tells you that you don't have a disease."
"You don't have to know how electricity works, in order to use it."
"Alcohol is Cunning, Baffling, and Powerful."
"I must never forget that I have a disease that is insidious — cunning, baffling, and powerful."
"Alcohol wants to kill me."
"My disease wants to kill me."
"If you don't like A.A., then find a better meeting."
"Don't criticize the Program."
"The process is perfect; let it work."
"Around The Program Or In The Program?"
"If the Program does not work for you, it's because you did not work the Program."
"A.A. will work if you want it to work."
"How does it work? It works just fine."
"No one is too drunk for the program."
"Don't work my program, or your program, work THE program."h-ups."
"If you want what we have and you're willing to go to any lengths to get it."
"Ask us how we did it, then do what we did."
"Qualifications for me to help you, one) you have to need it, two) you have to want it, three) you have to ask for it, four) you have to ask me."
"Your ego is just looking for an excuse to not attend a meeting."
"Lighten up — the war is over."
"The first step in overcoming mistakes is to admit them."
"I am teachable."
"I am teachable today."
"Look for the similarities, not the differences."
"If you hang around the barber shop long enough, you'll get a haircut."
"Don't hang around wet places and wet faces."
"By the grace of God and the fellowship at AA I am alive today."
"I am sober today. I don't know if I will relapse tomorrow."
"Fear alone won't keep me sober, but for a newcomer, it's not a bad place to start."
"A.A. can't prevent a relapse but it can ruin one."
"A.A. spoils your drinking."
"First we stayed sober because we have to... then we stay sober because we are willing to... then we stay sober because we want to."
"Every recovery from alcoholism began with one sober hour."
"A.A. messes up your drinking."
"Be as enthusiastic about A.A. as you were about your drinking."
"No alcoholic will blame himself for a relapse."
"Qualifications for me to help you, one) you have to need it, two) you have to want it, three) you have to ask for it, four) you have to ask me."
"You have to maintain a fit spiritual condition or relapse is inevitable."
"Stay in the main tent, and out of the sideshow."
"A.A. is not the type of place you happen to drop into because your life is great."
"Nobody goes to A.A. because their life is great."
"Nothing is so bad that a drink will not make it worse."
"Principles Before Personalities."
"It Works — It Really Does!"
"Recovery Is a Journey, Not a Destination."
"Recovery is not something you join, it's a way of life."
"A.A. is not something you join, it's a way of life."
"The A.A. way of life is meant to be bread for daily use, not cake for special occasions."
"Stick With the Winners."
"Keep Coming Back... It Works If You Work It, It Won't If You Don't."
"Keep coming until you hear your story."
"H.O.W. = Honesty, Openmindedness, Willingness."
"Live In The NOW."
"Just For Today."
"Just For Today, I will try to live through this day only, and not tackle my whole life problems at once."
"A person with one eye on yesterday and one eye on tomorrow is living ****eyed."
"One day at a time."
"Living in the here and now."
"God Is Never Late."
"Man's extremity is God's opportunity."
"You will be amazed."
"If God Seems Far Away, Who Moved?"
"Turn it over, the results are in God's hand."
"Your Turn in the barrell."
"If you turn it over and don't let go of it, you will be upside down."
"The price for serenity and sanity is self-sacrifice."
"AA = Altered Attitudes."
"GOD= Good Orderly Direction"
"Sponsors: Have One — Use One — Be One."
"Be Part Of The Solution, Not The Problem."
"I Can't Handle It. God, You Take Over."
"Willingness Is The Key."
"Clean and Serene."
"A drug is a drug."
"If AA uses brainwashing, then our brains must need to be washed."
"A.A. is not a cult; people who come here need their brains washed."
"No Pain... No Gain."
"Pain is the touchstone of spiritual growth."
"Pain before sobriety and pain before serenity."
"Pain is the touchstone of progress."
"Face It, Trace It, Erase It."
"Pain is the fire that burns the heart burn."
"N.U.T.S. — Not Using the Steps."
"S.O.B.E.R. = Son of a B****, Everything's Real."
"Before You Say: I Can't... Say, I'll Try."
"Don't Drink, Read The Big Book, And Go To Meetings."
"It's In The Book."
"It's in the Big Book."
"Use The 24-Hour Plan."
"Make Use Of Telephone Therapy."
"Help is only a phone call away."
"Stay in Recovery For Yourself."
"Stay Sober For Yourself."
"Look For Similarities Rather Than Differences."
"Do It Sober."
"Pass It On."
"Another Friend of Bill W's."
"Have A Good Day Unless You've Made Other Plans."
"90 Meetings in 90 Days."
"You Are Not Alone."
"Wherever You Go, There You Are."
"You either are or you aren't."
"Remember Your Last Drunk."
"Remember when."
"Remember That Addiction Is Incurable, Progressive, and Fatal."
"Try Not To Place Conditions On Your Recovery."
"When All Else Fails Follow Directions."
"People don't care how much you know, until they know how much you care."
"People who think they know it all are very irritating to those of us who do."
"Respect The Anonymity of Others."
"Anonymity is so important it's half of our name."
"Pain Is Optional."
"Let Go Of Old Ideas."
"We are not responsible for our family. We are not responsible to our family."
"Try To Replace Guilt With Gratitude."
"Guilt is the gift that keeps on giving."
"What Goes Around, Comes Around."
"Change Is A Process, Not An Event."
"Stay Sober For Yourself."
"Call Your Sponsor Before, Not After, You Take The First Drink."
"When all else fails, listen to your sponsor."
"When you are a sponsor, you get out of yourself. If I serve, I will be served."
"When all else fails, follow directions."
"When all else fails, the directions are in the Big Book."
"Take the mess to your sponsor, take the message to the meeting."
"Your best sponsor is the Big Book."
"Your Big Book is your sponsor too."
"Don't try to clear away the wreckage of the future."
"Sick And Tired Of Being Sick And Tired."
"It's The First Drink That Gets You Drunk."
"Drink, Drank, Drunk."
"What Goes Around, Comes Around."
"P.L.O.M. = Poor Little Old Me."
"Pain is a constant. Suffering is a choice."
"Decisions aren't forever."
"Happiness is an inside job."
"Remember Happiness And Serenity Are An Inside Job."
"Serenity is not freedom from the storm but peace amid the storm."
"Short version of the Serenity Prayer: Lighten up."
"You know you are sharing a feeling when you do not need a reply."
"Going into recovery means feeling."
"You can't speed up your recovery, but you sure can slow it down."
"Any Addict Clean Is A Miracle."
"We Demand Less And Give More."
"Believe In God Or Be God."
"There is a God and I'm not it."
"If you can't believe, then believe that I believe."
"A.A. works for people who believe in God. A.A. works for people who don't believe in God. A.A. NEVER works for people who believe they ARE God."
"God has no grand kids."
"If Only...."
"Some have to die that others can live."
"My best friend became my worst enemy."
"Help Is Only A Phone Call Away."
"You Can't Give Away What You Don't Have."
"One Drink Is Too Many And A Thousand Is Not Enough."
"Under Every Skirt Is A Slip."
"Under every dress there's a slip."
"If you don't want to slip, avoid slippery places."
"Don't watch the slippers, watch those who don't slip... watch them go through difficulties and pull through."
"A slip is a premeditated drunk."
"Courage To Change..."
"Courage is faith that has said its prayers."
"If faith without works is dead; then willingness without action is fantasy."
"Bring The Body And The Mind Will Follow."
"But for the Grace of God."
"This Too Shall Pass."
"I Can't... God Can... I Think I'll Let Him."
"I Can't Handle It, God. I'll Give It To You."
"More Will Be Revealed."
"You will intuitively know."
"You will be amazed."
"When man listens, God speaks."
"When man listens, God speaks; when man obeys, God works."
"The task ahead of us is never as great as the Power behind us."
"If It Works... Don't Fix It."
"Resign from the Debating Society."
"Your secrets will keep you sick."
"You're only as sick as your secrets."
"We are only as sick as our secrets."
"Don't hold anything back in your Fifth Step."
"Don't cling to your defects."
"Let go of old ideas."
"Screw Guilt."
"You're a liar, all drunks are liars."
"Some are sicker than others."
"Some of us our sicker than others."
"I got sick of being sick and tired."
"Like a wire stripped of its insulation."
"We're All Here Because We're Not All There."
"If you wonder whether you need to be here, you need to be here."
"Some people are so successful in recovery, they turn out to be almost as good as they thought they were while drinking."
"Some A.A.'s are so successful that they turn out to be almost as good as they used to think they were when they were drinking."
"Success means getting your BUT out of the way."
"You're sick and suffering."
"I drank: too much — too often — too long."
"Formula for failure: try to please everyone."
"Sorrow is looking back worry is looking around."
"Alcoholism is an equal opportunity destroyer."
"Alcoholism is a self-diagnosed disease."
"Alcoholism is a physical compulsion coupled with a mental obsession."
"Your disease progresses even when you are not drinking."
"Don't take yourself too damn seriously." (TSATT, page 149.)
"Rule 62: Don't take yourself so seriously."
"Stop living in the problem and start living in the answer." (BB, 3rd ed., p. 449.)
"I don't care who has a problem. What I want to know is, who has the solution?"
"Be part of the solution, not the problem."
"I pray to God every day that I never get the idea that I can run my own life."
"Please be patient — God isn't finished with me yet."
"I know I'm in trouble when I start thinking I can run my own life."
"It is insane to keep on doing the same old things you've always been doing, and expect to get different results."
"Don't leave five minutes before the miracle."
"Don't quit before the miracle happens."
"It gets better."
"One Drink, One Drunk."
"Only another alcoholic will understand."
"Nobody can understand an alcoholic better than another alcoholic."
"You can always tell an alcoholic, but you can't tell him much."
"If you wonder if you're an alcoholic, you probably are."
"Once an alcoholic, always an alcoholic."
"Today there's still a monkey on my back. He's just sleeping. He's real easy to wake up."
"Instant ********, just add alcohol."
"I didn't get into trouble every time I drank, but every time I got in trouble I was drunk."
"When I drank, I was committing suicide on the installment plan."
"Alcoholism is the only disease that tells you you're all right."
"It's a disease of perception."
"We have a disease that tells us we don't have a disease."
"Denial isn't just a river in Egypt."
"Denial is not a river in Egypt, but you can drown in it."
"Nobody can do it alone."
"Recovery is the Greatest Show on Earth."
"We are all Miracles."
"I'm doing the best I can and I'm still a better man than I used to be."
"Meeting makers make it."
"Keep your own side of the street swept."
"Shut up, show up and say 'yes.'"
"Bring your body, eventually your mind will follow."
"The most important thing is suit up and show up."
"The most important thing is just never take that first drink."
"The most important thing is to work the Steps."
"Meetings! Meetings! Meetings!"
"I need to do the Steps!"
"I need more meetings!"
"If you stick with the bunch, you'll get peeled."
"You have to go to these meetings until you want to."
"Go to meetings when you want to, and go to meetings when you don’t want to."
"It's been a good meeting so far."
"Seven days without an A.A. meeting makes one weak."
"There are two days in every week which we have no control over — yesterday and tomorrow. Today is the only day we can change."
"It is not the experience of today that drives people mad, it is remorse of yesterday and the dread of tomorrow."
"Yesterday is a cancelled check, tomorrow is a promissory note, only today is cash in the bank."
"I have the Golden Ticket."
"We have been given the Keys to the Kingdom."
"The first drink gets you drunk."
"We are without defense against the first drink, our defense must come from a power greater than ourselves."
"How important is it?"
"Sit Down, Shut Up, and Learn Something."
"Take the cotton out of your ears and stick it in your mouth."
"Before engaging your mouth, put your mind in gear."
"Listen and Learn."
"Listen like only the dying can."
"Before I got into A.A., I was dying for a drink."
"All I know is, it worked for me."
"You cannot dry todays washing with yesterday's wind."
"Every day is a gift. That's why we call it the present."
"Quitting isn't an option for addicts like us."
"Alcoholics can't afford to have resentments."
"You have a resentment."
"The road to resentment is paved with expectation."
"The flip side to forgiveness is resentments."
"Try to be grateful and resentful at the same time, you can't serve two masters."
"Write a gratitude list and count your blessings."
"Turn it over."
"Let it go."
"Skid Row is a place in my mind — not a place on the street."
"Progress, Not Perfection."
"We can do what I can't."
"You're not alone anymore."
"I am powerless over people, places, and things."
"Strength in powerlessness."
"First Things First."
"Poor me, poor me, pour me another drink."
"Nobody is ever too dumb to get the program, but some people are too intelligent."
"There are none too dumb for the A.A. program but many are too smart."
"The Steps are numbered for the intellectual."
"Never say 'no' to the program."
"This is a selfish program."
"When my insides match my outside, I'm practicing a good program."
"It isn't the load that weighs us down — it's the way we carry it."
"In A.A. we don't carry the alcoholic; we carry the message."
"Today I soak up A.A. the way I used to soak up alcohol."
"Don't debate whether or not A.A. works; figure out what works for you."
"If it did not work for you, then you did not really try it."
"If it did not work for you, then you did not work the Steps right."
"The Steps don't work to make you quit drinking; you must quit drinking to work the Steps."
"Working the Steps won't make you quit drinking right; quitting drinking will make you work the Steps right."
"You don't work the Steps to quit drinking; you quit drinking to work the Steps."
"Life starts when you stop."
"This program isn't for people who need it, it's for people who want it."
"AA is not for people who want it or for people who need it... it is for people who do it!"
"Opinions are like ********s — everybody's got one, and most of them stink."
"If you point a finger at someone, you will find three pointed back at you."
"When you point a finger at someone else, there are three pointed back at you."
"Don't point a finger; point the whole hand (reach out)."
"AA has no leaders and no one can speak for AA."
"How does one become an old-timer? Don't drink and don't die."
"A.A. may not solve all your problems but it is willing to share them."
"Sorrow shared is halved; joy shared is doubled."
"Three suggestions for making an A.A. speech: 1) be interesting 2) be brief 3) be seated."
"Acceptance is the answer to all of your problems today."
"Acceptance: experience is what you get when you don't get what you want."
"Acceptance: Stop barking and start biting."
"Acceptance: Life is 10 percent what you make it and 90 percent how you take it."
"Accept your admission."
"Half measures availed us nothing."
"Get On Your Knees."
"If you don't bend your knees, you'll bend your elbow."
"Bend your knees before you bend your elbow."
"A.A. is about finding God."
"We had to quit playing God."
"If God is your co-pilot, switch seats."
"There are no atheists in foxholes."
"There are no coincidences in A.A."
"A coincidence is a miracle in which God chooses to remain anonymous."
"The will of God will never take you where the grace of God will not protect you."
"When we surrender to our higher power, the journey begins."
"God taught us to laugh again but God please don't let us forget that we once cried."
"Let it begin with me."
"Get out of the driver's seat.......let go and let god."
"Get humble."
"There is a god and I am not it."
"You can't save your face and your ass at the same time."
"We didn't fly into A.A. on the wings of victory."
"None of us came here on a winning streak."
"None of us got here from drinking too much coffee."
"I did my drinking from Park Avenue to park bench."
"An A.A. meeting is where losers get together to talk about their winnings."
"A winner is a loser who keeps trying."
"It's easy to talk the talk, but you have to walk the walk."
"A.A. is a school in which we are all learners and all teachers."
"There is no such thing as a bad meeting."
"A.A. has a wrench to fit every nut that walks through the door." (We Have The Panacea.)
"The doors swing both ways."
"Each and every alcoholic, sober or not, teaches us valuable lessons about ourselves and recovery."
"The definition of an alcoholic; an egomaniac with an inferiority complex."
"Cunning, baffling, powerful, and patient."
"The time to attend a meeting is when you least feel like going."
"Get to the meeting early and go to the meeting after the meeting."
"If your ass falls off, put it in a paper bag and take it to a meeting."
"20/20: Come 20 minutes before the meeting, stay 20 minutes after."
"Alcoholics heal from the outside in, but feel from the inside out."
"If you want to hide something from an alcoholic, hide it in the Big Book, because that's where he'll never find it."
"Ask an alcoholic what time it is and he'll tell you how to build a clock."
"Fear is the absence of faith."
"Courage is faith that has said its prayers."
"Fear is the darkroom where negatives are developed."
"We can be positive that our drinking was negative."
"Stop fighting everyone."
"Keep an open mind."
"We have given up fighting anybody or anything."
"People who leave just want to drink."
"We realize we know only a little." (Big Book, page 164.)
"We're the experts on addiction."
"Untreated alcoholism KILLS, with or without a drink."
"Remember that alcoholism is incurable, progressive, and fatal."
"The first step is the only step a person can work perfectly."
"The journey of 1,000 miles begins with the first step."
"If a candidate for A.A. is ready, you can't say anything wrong; if he's not ready, you can't say anything right."
"Step One only works when you do the other eleven."
"If you quit one day at a time, every day that you don't drink will be an accomplishment. If you quit forever, you won't have accomplished anything until you're dead."
"If you want to drink, that is your business... If you want to quit and can't, that is A.A.'s business."
"I get what I need and inevitably find out it was what I wanted all the time."
"I want what I want when I want it."
"A.A. tells us that our lives can be better."
"When I start wondering if everything's okay, it's probably not."
"It takes time."
"It takes time to get your brains out of hock."
"Time wasted in getting even can never be used in getting ahead."
"If I take a drink, I take my life back."
"Do what you can, let go of what you can't, and leave the results to a higher power."
"The results are in God's hands."
"If I take a drink, I take my life back."
"If you have a problem believing in God, go to an A.A. meeting and you'll see miracle, after miracle, after miracle. Seeing is believing."
"There is no magic in recovery only miracles."
"Let it go, it was never yours to begin with."
"Just trust and surrender that's all you really need to do."
"The third step is the Swiss Army knife of the steps: it helps you do everything."
"Nothing pushed down inside of us stays down for very long."
"Put down the magnifying glass you use to look at others and look in the mirror."
"Don't take someone else's inventory."
"When you're taking someone else's inventory, who's taking yours?"
"Taking others' inventory: You spot it, you got it."
"Taking others' inventory (when you should be taking your own)."
"Don't just take an inventory; let it take you."
"Take other people's inventory until you can take your own."
"Uncover to recover."
"As the unexamined life is not worth living, the unlived life is not worth examining."
"Conquer yourself rather than the world."
"Keep your own side of the street clean."
"Most alcoholics who quit A.A. will drink again unless they remember where they came from."
"Every drink I drank got me here. Every drink I don't drink keeps me here."
"Active alcoholics don't have relationships; they take hostages."
"If we don't remember our last drunk, maybe we haven't had it yet."
"If you can't remember your last drink, maybe you haven't had it."
"We all have another drunk left in us but we don't know if we have another recovery in us."
"I might have another drunk left in me, but do I have another recovery?"
"Anyone wanting to leave should take a close look at their motivation."
"You never hear someone coming back telling you it got better."
"A.A.'s like the Mafia — If you leave it, you die."
"There is no mistake so great as that of being always right."
"Keep on trudgin'."
"To practice Step 5 is to share at a meeting."
"Be a channel not a dam. If you pass, it's your ass."
"Give to God and God will give to you."
"The only thing we take from this world when we leave is what we gave away."
"The key to step 6 is acceptance — accepting character defects exactly as they are and becoming entirely willing to let them go."
"Part of compliance is defiance, but you must arrive at acceptance of the disease."
"Treatment of a disease doesn't always feel good."
"Change only happens when the pain of holding on is greater than the fear of letting go."
"When the pain of staying sober becomes less than the pain of getting drunk, you'll stay sober."
"If you want to stay sober, make the coffee."
"Stand by the coffee pots. It's a good way to meet people."
"I didn't get sober to be miserable."
"Do what you don't want to do."
"No pain, no gain."
"There is pain in recovery. Misery is optional."
"If you fly with crows, you get shot at."
"Willpower = our willingness to use a Higher Power."
"W.O.W. = Willingness over willpower."
"H.O.W. = How the Program works: Honesty, Openness, and Willingness."
"H.O.W. = Honesty, Open-mindedness, Willingness."
"Dating is pouring Miracle Gro on my character defects."
"Tighten up (financially)."
"If you want to feel better right away, ask God to help you be of service."
"To be of maximum service to others."
"Unity, recovery, and service."
"The smartest thing an A.A. member can say is, help."
"When I ask for patience, God gives me a traffic jam."
"If you pray for honesty, the chances of your lying go 'way up."
"Trying to pray is praying."
"Be careful what you pray for; you're liable to get it."
"When God closes one door, he always opens another — but sometimes he makes us wait out in the hallway for a while."
"God could and would if He were sought."
"Step 7: Humility: the spiritual focus is humility asking a higher power to do something that cannot be done by self-will or mere determination."
"Get humble or be made humble."
"Unless one attains some degree of humility, one is condemned to drink."
"Humility is the soil in which all other virtues grow."
"Humility is that virtue which reduces a man to the proper size without degrading him, thereby increasing him in stature without inflating him."
"Humility is like a venereal disease. If you have it, you don't talk about it."
"Humility is our acceptance of ourselves."
"Those who anger you, conquer you."
"Depression is anger toward inward."
"Love is less a feeling than a thousand tiny acts of kindness."
"LOVE: Letting go Of Virtually Everything."
"To open oneself up to love, is to open oneself up to loss."
"We'll love you, until you learn to love yourself."
"Let us love you, until you can learn to love yourself."
"I love you, God loves you, and there's nothing you can do about it."
"The victims of alcoholism are those around us."
"There are no victims, only volunteers."
"If you stop treating yourself poorly, it will become unacceptable for others to do so."
"When you run out of quarters for your ass-kicking machine, I've got an extra roll for you to use."
"Forgiveness of others is a gift to yourself."
"The number one way to relieve pain is to forgive."
"Going to any length means forgiving the person who has injured you the most."
"To be forgiven we must forgive."
"When I demand justice, I'd better think of the consequences."
"Nobody likes to admit to being wrong. But it is absolutely necessary to maintain spiritual progress in recovery."
"Why recovery never ends: the disease is alcoholism, not alcoholWASm."
"BE a human being not a human doing."
"Don't know, just be."
"What will be will appear."
"If you only pray when you need something fixed, you're turning God into a repairman."
"Praying is asking God for help, meditating is listening for God's answer."
"We don't pray to change things; we pray to change us."
"If nothing changes, nothing changes."
"Prayer is not a device for getting my own way, but rather a means to become what I should be."
"All you have to change is everything."
"Daily Meditation for about 20 minutes is recommended for all in recovery; unless of course, you are very busy — then you should meditate for an hour."
"If you are too busy to pray, you are too busy."
"When you find yourself in a hurry, Stop and Recall the real ASAP: Always Say A Prayer."
"If you are having trouble getting on your knees to pray in the morning, put your shoes under the middle of the bed the night before."
"God answers "knee mails""
"Backsliding begins when knee-bending ends."
"Faith is our greatest gift; sharing it with others our greatest responsibility "
"Faith chases away fear."
"Faith without works is dead."
"What is God's Will for me today?"
"If it is meant to be, I can't stop it. If it isn't God's will, I can't make it happen."
"I don't always know what God's will is for me, but I always know what it's not."
"Pray as if everything depended on God; work as if everything depends on ourselves."
"No person can spend more on good works than they earn in meditation."
"There are A.A. members who make things happen there are A.A. members who watch things happen there are A.A. members who DON'T KNOW anything happened."
"A day without prayer is a day unfulfilled."
"A day hemmed in prayer is less likely to unravel."
"Focus plus Courage plus Willingness to Learn equals Miracles."
"Practice these principles in all your affairs — or change your affairs."
"Trust in God, clean house, and work with others."
"Service: Shut up, show up and say yes."
"Service is gratitude in action."
"The greatest gift that can come to anybody is a spiritual awakening."
"Awakening into sober usefulness."
"AA leads us to God, and God leads us to ourselves."
"Are you a human being having a spiritual experience? Or a spiritual being having a human experience?"
"We are not human beings having spiritual experiences; we are spiritual beings having human experiences."
"Carry the message, not the mess."
"The message is under the ashtray."
"The message is up front."
"Some of us get so spiritual; we are of no earthly value to anyone."
"Most people hope to avoid hell; spiritual people have been there."
"The more you have on the inside, the less you need on the outside."
"How we treat others is a consequence of the depth of our own spirituality."
"We are hardest to love when we need love most."
"When I am working with a drunk, sometimes the drunk I'm working on is me."
"A candle loses nothing by lighting another candle."
"Only in giving do we receive in full measure."
"Be where you are supposed to be, do what you are supposed to do, when you are supposed to do it."
"I can only help another to the degree that I've been helped myself."
"When anyone, anywhere, reaches out for help, I want the hand of AA always to be there: and for that, I am responsible."
"We're responsible for the effort not the outcome."
"Helping people help themselves."
"Spirituality is the ability to get our minds off ourselves."
"Program bumper stickers belong on the dashboard, not the bumper."
"The slogans are wisdom written in shorthand."
"Chapter five (Big Book) is called 'how it works', not 'why me?'."
"The shortest sentence in the big book is, 'It Works.'"
"You don't need the latest self-improvement bestseller. You have the classic in your hands. (The 'Big Book')"
"Prevent truth decay — read your Big Book."
"When you re-read the Big Book, you do not see more than you did before. You see more in you than was there before."
"Read your Big Book every day, but try reading only the black parts."
"One of those rare books that gets smarter every time I read it."
"The reason I keep going to meetings is because the Big Book has no pictures in it."
"If you want to hide something from an alcoholic, hide it in the Big Book, because that is where he will never find it."
"The Law of Oversell: When putting cheese in a mousetrap, always leave room for the mouse."
"The Law of Reality: Never get into fights with ugly people, they have nothing to lose."
"The Law of Self Sacrifice: When you starve with a tiger, the tiger starves last."
"The Law of Drunkenness: You can't fall off the floor."
"Make no major changes in the first year."
"No relationships in the first year."
"Two sickies don't make a wellie."
"Sober 'n Crazy."
"Reality is for people who can't handle drugs."
"Don't Quit — Surrender."
"He's taking a geographic."
"At first you come because you have to come, but later you come because you love to come."
"This Is A Selfish Program."
"Let us love you until you can love yourself."
"The sicker you are the more we love you."
"If you call me when you're sober I'll show you how much I love you. If you call me when you're drunk I'll show you how much I love ME."
"AA is a place for sick people to get well."
"A.A. is an education without graduation."
"We are not bad people becoming good, but sick people becoming well."
"We are not bad people trying to get good, we are sick people trying to get well."
"We are sick people trying to get well, not bad people trying to get good."
"My sponsor says I'm trying. Very trying."
"We are not saints."
"We are not reformed drunks — but informed alcoholics."
"If you sober up a horse thief all you have is a sober horse thief."
"We are not different from others, God just made us special."
"We A.A.'s are 'gifted' people."
"No matter how far down the scale you've gone, you are welcome in AA."
"There aren't any 'musts' in this program, but there are a lot of 'you betters'."
"Unless each AA member follows to the best of his ability our suggested Twelve Steps of recovery, he almost certainly signs his own death warrant. We must obey certain principles or we die." Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions, William G. Wilson, page 174.
"We do have traditions, but remember, there are no rules in AA."
"Personal Recovery is all about working AA's 12 Steps... continually."
"The 12 Steps tell us how it works; the 12 Traditions tell us why it works."
"Unity is about making meetings and talking with others honestly in recovery."
"One alcoholic talking to another one equals one."
"Service is about being at meetings to chair, share and get out of ourselves."
"When you do all the talking you only learn what you already know."
"The Miracle of Healing that is God's Gift — Recovery."
"All of us have to ask ourselves about the GOD idea... Either he is the all-knowing master of time, space and dimension... or there is a lot of random chance in our lives and universe."
"Happy, joyous and free."
"He suffers from terminal uniqueness."
"I am unique, just like everybody else."
"If you hang around the barber shop enough, you will end up getting a hair cut."
"Who you see here, what you hear here, let it stay here."
"What you see here, what you hear here, when you leave here, let it stay here."
"What you hear and see here, stays here."
"Meds quiet the still small voice of God."
"There is no chemical solution to a spiritual problem."
"Today I have more solutions than problems."
"Some must die so that others can live."
"We can only keep that which we give away." (Meaning: recruit new members for the cult, and indoctrinate them.)
"You have to give it away in order to keep it."
"Get it — give it — grow in it."
"If we don't grow, we gotta go."
"Freely giving what was freely given to us..." (Meaning: recruit as we were recruited; indoctrinate them as we were indoctrinated.)
"You received without cost, now give without charge."
"In a bar, we got sympathy — as long as our money lasted. In A.A., we get understanding for nothing."
"He's a bleeding deacon" (He's an unhappy old-timer).
"He's on a dry drunk" (He is simultaneously sober and in disagreement with A.A.).
"He's sitting on the pity pot" (He is indulging in self-pity; not being grateful for A.A.).
"Who would you rather associate with, your former drinking buddies, or sober people in recovery?"
"Move closer to AA and move closer to yourself."
"Being a part of something is more important than being the center of attention."
"You will never have to drink again, and will you will never be alone again."
"A.A. stands for Attitude Adjustment"
"I have become a pupil of A.A. rather than the teacher I thought I was."
"Life is 10% what you make it and 90% how you take it."
"If the cure works, chances are, you have the disease."
"Once you are a pickle, you can't be a cu***ber. But once you are a pickle, you can be a newcomer."
"Be nice to newcomers. One day, they may be your sponsor."
"God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference."
"God grant me patience. Right now."
"Keep an attitude of gratitude."
"Practice an attitude of gratitude."
"To attract the right person, become the right person."
"You spot it, you got it."
"When you point a finger at someone, there are three pointing back at you."
"If you are too busy to pray, you are too busy."
"Everything after 'but' is BS."
"If you want to find out what your character defects are, fall in love."
"Keep coming back, it works!"
"It works it really does! (page 88 in the Big Book)"
"A job is something that happens to you on the way to a meeting."
"If hanging around A.A. doesn't work, try hanging out inside A.A."
"Is it odd, or is it God?"
"Don't worry, if you don't get the program right away, it will get you."
"Recovery is simple: eat, sleep, work the steps."
"The further you are from your last drink, the closer you are to the next one."
"The farther I get from my last drink, the closer I get to my next drunk."
"Are you walking towards a drink or away from one?"
"If we knew which drink was going to cause wet brain, we would stop just before it."
"Religion is when man tells you about God, a Cult is when man tells you he is God, and 12-Step is when God tells you about yourself."
"A treatment center is where you go and pay $15,000 to find out that A.A. meetings are free."
And undoubtedly, the single worst thought-stopping slogan of all is:

"Utilize, Don't Analyze."
And if they want a few more slogans, I have some favorites of my own that I'll be happy to donate to the cause:

"My Kharma just ran over your Dogma."
"Pray for Brains." — Me
"Some are more brainwashed than others." — Me
"Death is just Mother Nature's way of telling you that it's time to quit smoking." — John B. Pace
"Wake up and smell the coffee."
"Put new batteries in your bull**** detector."
"Keeping an open mind is a virtue, but not so open that your brains fall out." — James Oberg
"When all you have is a hammer, everything looks like a nail."
"A mind is a wonderful thing to waste." — From our beloved ex-Vice President Dan Quale
"The problem with K.I.S.S. — Keep It Simple Stupid — is that it often leads to L.O.V.E. — Leave Out Virtually Everything." — credited to "a smart musician"
"Life is what happens while you are trying to get your life together." — Me
"A year spent making mud pies is just a year wasted — you still don't have any pies to eat." — Me
"There is nothing quite like dying for convincing you that you really need to take better care of your health." — Me
"You can get more stinkin' from 12-Step thinkin' than you can from drinkin'." — Me
"Don't pee in my face and tell me it's raining."
"Keep An Open Mind." — Be entirely ready and willing to admit that Bill Wilson was insane, the Twelve Steps don't work, and the whole program is a bunch of cult baloney. So keep an open mind, please, and quit being in denial.
Also see the item "Cult-speak" for more redefined words and thought-stopping language.

835 days ago
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Nikki    

Check this one out and the twipic,


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"Neep reading the bs" LOL Dina needs to learn how to check her spelling before pressing send

835 days ago
408.

Vinsetta    

Lindsay belongs in AA, NA, and Al Anon. All of it. Oh I forgot, she just goes to hang out with friends. Disregard.

835 days ago
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ilovegossip    

Stay on Topic, RW!!!

835 days ago
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Nikki    

OMG! All this copy and paste going on tonight, where the heck to do find the space to say Good night???

835 days ago
411.

Rogue Warrior    

And THIS is WHY I post; "To Keep It, You Have To Give It Away."


GONE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

835 days ago
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andyscandy    

guess whos back in LA..
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About to start playing tennis under an orange setting sun in LA....gorgeous!!

835 days ago
413.

Rogue Warrior    

LEAVING ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS
By Gunthar2000 – August 14, 2010

[Thank you, new contributor Gunthar2000! - ftg]

Sunflowerx41

I don’t remember if it was summer or winter. I couldn’t tell you what time of day it was. There are many specifics of that encounter that I find difficult to recall.
After years of working the 12 steps of Alcoholics Anonymous I was still unable to stop drinking. It seemed like no power on this earth would ever be able to relieve my desire to drink. I had spent a thousand mornings, and as many evenings, on my knees begging the God of Alcoholics Anonymous to save me from myself. I’d been to detoxes and rehabs… hospitals and psych wards. Over and over I’d tried, and over and over I’d failed. I was beginning to think that I was forsaken.

Gasping and choking, I’d carried my swollen feet up the library stairs, hoping that there, on the internet; I might connect with someone who held the secret key to sobriety.

I’d been bombarded with messages of hopelessness and self-doubt for so long that it was beginning to seem like the only way out of this would be at the end of a rope, or maybe a cold steel razor. Another day… another wish… and my ambition would sputter to a halt… I was lost.

I sat down at my usual place and began typing…

“Chat! Chat! I’m looking for an answer”…
“Somewhere out there is that someone who has the key”…
“Somewhere out there is my new sponsor… the enlightened one… the one who will be able to fix me.”

I found my way to a dead chat-room with a single person in it… “Sunflowerx41” I think it was…

Gunthar2000: Hello.
Sunflowerx41: Hello.
Gunthar2000: Are you in recovery?
Sunflowerx41: 10 years.
Gunthar2000: I can’t seem to get it right.
Sunflowerx41: Get what right?
Gunthar2000: The program.
Sunflowerx41: Ahhh… The program… Have you tried anything else?
Gunthar2000: I tried quitting on my own, but it never works. My whole life is a mess.
Sunflowerx41: Do you read books?
Gunthar2000: Yes I do. My favorite book is The Grapes of Wrath. I like to read stuff from that period. Steinbeck is a genius! Have you read it?
Sunflowerx41: Read The Small Book by Jack Trimpey.
Gunthar2000: What’s it about? Someone online suggested that I should read The Greatest Salesman in the World by Og Mandino. I read it, but it was too mooshy-gooshy for me. Have you read it?
Sunflowerx41: Are you drinking right now?
Gunthar2000: I’m at the library… I’m drunk, if that’s what you’re asking.
Sunflowerx41: Do you have a piece of paper?
Gunthar2000: Hold on a sec.
Gunthar2000: Got it.
Sunflowerx41: Write this down.
Sunflowerx41: The Small Book by Jack Trimpey.
Gunthar2000: Okay… What’s it like?
Sunflowerx41: It’s about quitting drinking… Have you had enough?
Gunthar2000: Yup… My life is all ****ed up.
Sunflowerx41: Then read the book. It changed my life. I’ve been sober for 10 years in May. Hey listen… I have to go. The brood is acting up. I was just like you. You can quit drinking if you want to… just get that book and read it. Write it down and put it in your pocket in case you forget. I have to go. Good luck.
Gunthar2000: Thanks. What’s it about?
Sunflowerx41: I have to go.
Sunflowerx41: Bye.
Gunthar2000: Bye.

It would be another three or four years before I’d finally put the bottle down, but that day… that encounter in a chat-room… and that book have changed my life for the better.

A Vision for Me

I’m not gonna get into the specifics about how I quit drinking, because frankly, I don’t think you should give a ****. I can sum it up in two words… “Individualized Recovery.” That means my recovery is based on my needs, and nobody else’s. What I did to stop drinking is as likely to help you stop drinking as it is likely my shoes will fit comfortably on your feet… and the same goes for AA’s 12 steps.

I don’t know about you, but in my case, Bill Wilson’s shoes hurt the hell out of my feet and gave me blisters. It was like trying to walk with bear-traps on my ankles.

My point here is that there is no single method that works for everyone. We are all unique people, with unique challenges, and unique needs. Recovery depends on your ability to identify your own issues and solve your own problems. I’m not suggesting that you shouldn’t use every available resource to help you identify your problems and recover from alcoholism. I’m saying that when AA hands you a plate full of **** and tells you that you have to eat it if you want to recover, it’s okay to say, “That ain’t my plate full of ****, and those ain’t my problems.”

If there were any steps involved at all in my recovery, leaving AA was the first. And so, I left AA and I recovered from my battle with booze. I was able to do this, in large part, due to that chance encounter, in that empty chat-room long ago.

Half Steps

Leaving AA was not easy for me. I’d spent the better part of 18 years or so bouncing in and out of dirty church basements looking for an answer. Although I couldn’t call anyone at AA a close friend, besides my family and a fleeting romance here and there, AA members were the only acquaintances that I had. When I told my AA friends that I was thinking about seeking outside help they quickly assured me that I would drink again. And so, I tossed around in the surf. Alcoholics Anonymous had become a mind **** that ebbed and broke like crescent waves through my entire existence. Without those people, I couldn’t even figure out who the **** I was. They had defined me, and I had depended on their approval in order to justify myself. The only way to be accepted was to subscribe to the doctrine. They had prescribed a one size fit’s all personality profile and told me that if I didn’t find a way to fit it I would die.

And here was this book… this little rant that introduced me to the idea that it was okay to think for myself again. I devoured that book like God eats lobster, and when I was finished, I knew that something big had happened. It felt like stepping back into my-self. Somewhere along the line I had renounced myself. I had taken up Bill Wilson’s cross and followed Alcoholics Anonymous out into the wilderness and there I found no manna to sustain. And so I left the tribe and there along my path stood a sign that read, “This Way to You.”

If I hadn’t found the answer to my drinking problem, I was sure of one thing. Alcoholics Anonymous was not helping me… it was hurting me.

“But what about those nice people… the ones who’ve devoted so much time to trying to help you?”… I asked myself.
“Surely Jack and Mary, Dave and Roy meant you no harm.”
“You were the one who failed, not them.”

And I went back, and I went back again seeking their approval… trying my best to “take what I needed and leave the rest.” It took a while, but the truth did finally sink in… There is no “take what you need and leave the rest.” AA is all or nothing. You are either in AA, or you are out of AA… There is no in between. There is no splicing the doctrine. There is no yourself.

I left AA in early September of 2006.
September 22nd, I put the bottle down.
I haven’t had a drop since.

Posted in Leaving Alcoholics Anonymous.

835 days ago
414.

Nikki    

Good Night my TMZ Dolls, Sweet Dreams.

835 days ago
415.

Nikki    

Buttercup, no staying up late tonight. Left arm curls out the window. Right arm curls with cracktails and shots for tomorrow.
If GC comes on after I leave, tell her HEY! from me.
ILG, It was nice, right. Thanks mama!

835 days ago
416.

INSIDER H8TURD, V.P.    


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835 days ago
417.

Zephyr, Enemy of #LittleWhores    

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834 days ago
418.

LLsez    

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834 days ago
419.

LLsez    

Good morning Nikki,

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834 days ago
420.

Nikki    

10 more days till May. When does Lindsay leave for Canada?

834 days ago
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