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R. Kelly

'The Notebook' Inspired Me

... to Divorce My Wife

7/3/2012 8:50 AM PDT BY TMZ STAFF
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11:43 PM PT --
Kellys' ex-wife Andrea tells TMZ ... she doesn't believe "The Notebook" truly caused their split ... telling TMZ, "[The movie] came out in 2004 and we saw it together.  Our divorce wasn’t finalized until 2009 so it’s impossible that the movie could have been the reason for our relationship ending. "

She adds, "We had been separated for 6 years at that point! The movie definitely did not end our relationship!”

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R. Kelly
is blaming Ryan Gosling for ruining his marriage ... sorta ... and it's all because of R.G.'s performance in "The Notebook."

Kelly just revealed some incredibly personal secrets in his new memoir, "Soulacoaster" ... including an explanation about why he decided to divorce his former back up dancer Andrea Kelly back in 2009.

Long story short ... Kelly claims after watching the movie, he realized his own 12-year marriage couldn't stand up to the romance featured in the flick.

Here's the explanation in Kelly's own words:

"As the film credits started to roll, I couldn't move. I burst into tears. People walking past me patted me on the back, trying to console me. 'The Notebook' was beautiful, and I was crying because its hero and heroine had died together.

But I was also crying because I remembered a Valentine's Day -- when a helicopter dropped a rainfall of roses -- that had come and gone ... My marriage had died. And there was nothing I could do to bring it back."

Damn you, Gosling.

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31.

Shellybean    

R Kelly, come on now bruh!!!!

806 days ago
32.

realtalk    

tmz edited what was originally said. thats only the last couple of lines. r kelly blamed himself for the end of his marriage not that movie. tmz you need to stop trying to stir up drama. if you was gonna post this you should of posted the entire original comment.

806 days ago
33.

What!!    

Or was it the little girls???

806 days ago
34.

realtalk    

this is what was originally said. the ENTIRE comment. harry levin needs to stop trying to make black people look bad on his site just to get traffic. we already have mediatakeout doing it so i guess harry wants to compete with them.
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R. Kelly shares candid details of his 12-year marriage to Hollywood Exes star Andrea Kelly in his autobiography, Soulacoaster, The Diary of Me, out Thursday on SmileyBooks. Andrea, who is the mother of Kelly's three children, is a cast member on the VH1 reality show that also stars former spouses of Eddie Murphy, Prince, Jose Canseco and Will Smith.


In the Soulacoaster chapter "The Breakup," Kelly describes the day a frustrated Andrea took off her $50,000 wedding ring and threw it in a pond in their backyard.
The problems in Kelly and Andrea's marriage had been mounting. According to Kelly, he continued to struggle with infidelity, Andrea was unhappy walking away from her dance career to be a stay-at-home mother, and they were constantly fighting.

One day, Kelly said he confronted Andrea about her feelings for him and it backfired. "The way you're acting around here," he wrote, "I don't think you love me anymore." He repeated the statement, but she did not respond. So he challenged her.
"If you really don't love me, I dare you to take off your wedding ring and throw it in the pond out back," he wrote.
Andrea replied that the proposal wasn't a good idea. "You might not like what your dare will make me do," she said.
Kelly continued.
"Drea took the dare," he wrote. "She marched out to the yard and threw the ring in the pond — 'plunk!' Man, I couldn't believe it. I offered $10,000 to anyone who could fish that ring out of the pond. No one could."

Their problems escalated. They began discussing divorce. When Kelly realized that the relationship was over, he went to the movies by himself to see The Notebook. Though he enjoyed the love story about a couple who grew old together and died in each other's arms, he got visibly emotional in the theater.
"As the film credits started to roll, I couldn't move," he wrote. "I burst into tears. People walking past me patted me on the back, trying to console me. The Notebook was beautiful, and I was crying because its hero and heroine had died together. But I was also crying because I remembered a Valentine's Day — when a helicopter dropped a rainfall of roses — that had come and gone. My marriage had died. And there was nothing I could do to bring it back."

Kelly met Andrea when she auditioned to be one of his background dancers. He described their meeting as love at first sight. Though his initial attraction was physical, he loved her confidence. He described her as a lioness who "calmed [his] inner storms."

806 days ago
35.

LOL    

WHAT A MISERABLE PIECE OF S***- LAME EXCUSE FOR A DIVORICE AND PUBLIC ATTENTION- NOT WORKING HERE FOR SURE! AND YOU HAVE KIDS-" REALY"

806 days ago
36.

cekeste    

WTF. So take the time to fix it and create a better story... that ISN'T fictional.

806 days ago
37.

Jared    

Okay, anyone who thinks those are R Kelly's actual words is an idiot. You think R Kelly can write a book, let alone write at the level of sophistication of the writing above?

806 days ago
38.

Lmao    

I know that's a fan favorite but damn, that movie bored the hell out of me!!! The book,
of course, is %100 better. :)

806 days ago
39.

Mikey    

He read?


Obviously the wife left him cause of the peeing. No doubt every time she turned around he was peeing on her.

I bet he be peeing on he self too!

806 days ago
40.

Mikey    

There wasn't even no black people or hip hop music in that movie. What he talking about?

806 days ago
41.

South Beach    

There was something else going on around that time too I think for R. Kelly. Oh yeah!

2004 - Arrested in Florida for taping sex with an underage girl, and 2005 - 14 counts of child porn in Illinois. No place like home, right R?

Was that "The Notebooks" fault too?

What a D Bag. Pfff...

806 days ago
42.

Dawn    

He realized his wife was older than 13, so she had to go!... pedo!

806 days ago
43.

Christian    

this is about as stupid as saying , "i got rid of my dog, because he couldn't talk like Scooby Doo"

806 days ago
44.

Maggie    

Really?

806 days ago
45.

Kari    

I am going to have to agree with #4, Tim. Well said.

806 days ago
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