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Shayne Lamas, Nik Richie

We Named Our Son

After He Died

2/19/2014 1:00 AM PST BY TMZ STAFF
EXCLUSIVE

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Shayne Lamas
and husband Nik Richie not only tragically lost their 20-week-old unborn baby last week ... Nik was put through one of the most heart-wrenching moments a father can bear -- having to name and hold the baby after it died.

TMZ broke the story ... Shayne suffered a rare pregnancy complication last week and underwent an emergency hysterectomy to save her life and stop the massive bleeding.  In the process, she lost her baby.

Nik tells TMZ ... a few days after the baby died, a social worker from the hospital, along with someone involved in the religion affiliated with the hospital, came to him and asked if he wanted to know the gender of his baby.  He said yes, and they told him the baby was "a beautiful boy."

But then Nik says, he was asked if he wanted to view his son to get closure.  Nik says he nervously obliged and was taken to a room where his son lay.  Nik says they asked him to hold the baby while they prayed.

But it wasn't over.  Nik was then told he needed to name his child so they could fill out a birth certificate.  Nik, who was overwrought with emotion, told them he always wanted a son named Rex, so he named the boy Rex Jagger Lamas-Richie.  He chose Jagger because of Mick.

Nik says he's glad he got to see his son but it was the hardest thing he's ever done.

As for Shayne ... Nik says she doing better but -- after a medically-induced coma and a cardiac arrest scare -- she's still in ICU and in danger.

Nik wrote a letter to his son, that he asked us to share.

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209 COMMENTS

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31.

WhoCares    

Some of you sound like you've been featured on the dirty.com.

226 days ago
32.

bellagrazi    

So heartbreaking. Puts into perspective what is really important in life. God bless this family. Most especially, baby R.J.

226 days ago
33.

Keisha    

I am sorry for there loss,Nik's touching words were very special. I hope for there families sake that Shayne will fully recover and they will deal with there loss together.

226 days ago
34.

Helen    

I feel so bad for Shayne. I was actually kinda feeling bad for Nik, but after reading this it seems like he's just loving attention. only he could take what seems like a very personal letter and toss it out there merely for attention and hopes that maybe people will stop thinking he's still a huge piece of **** with no heart. hasnt changed my mind.

226 days ago
35.

queenE    

So sad! Hopefully she gets better soon. Sorry for your loss. Focus on what you have been given.

226 days ago
36.

UPYOURS    

So sad all the way around. People may say he is slime, but fact of the matter is, he's human and they have suffered a huge loss.

226 days ago
37.

Luz    

How sad! My prayers are with both of them.

226 days ago
38.

zombie    

I would think if he were that grief stricken, running to TMZ with stories andetters would be the furthest thing from his mind. I feel for any parent going through a loss. A friend of mine has a 7 year old who was just diagnosed with a terminal illness. No parent should lose a child.

226 days ago
39.

BellaJ    

Maybe Nik will take that awful website down and rethink the way he's living his life after experiencing such pain and loss. I really hope he comes out of this a better man and a nicer human being. Love isn't just for family, as we are all connected.

226 days ago
40.

DangerInk    

'This is karma nik. Bastard. Rip baby boy, you're way better without that 'man' as your dad. Just sayin.

226 days ago
41.

Yiayia    

Nothing worse than losing a child, praying for shayne, nic, and baby press.

226 days ago
42.

Hell's Belle    

This is horrible, no one should have to go through this.

226 days ago
43.

April    

From the tone of your article, it sounds like you think that holding the child during prayer or naming the child adds to the pain. Hospital personal ask if you want to see, but they never force. They want to help you heal. I've lost 3 children and in a miscarriage, in addition to the pain of losing the child is the feeling that somehow the child never existed. Like you have no right to call yourself a parent. You see others with their children and you want the cry because your "parenthood" doesn't count. And the lose of your child hurts so much. And there is no name you can give. Naming the child helps. Suddenly you are a parent. You feel you have a right to hurt. During these times holding, naming, praying... they help. Losing your child is a pain so intense. You don't just walk it off. You have to go through the grief process. Nik would never be forced to do any of these things, and the fact he wrote a letter shows that the grief counselors did help. His son has a name and he is reaching out. He is going to heal. Unless he told you himself that this was all freaky, then the tone of your article was wrong.

226 days ago
44.

Gretel    

I had assumed she had a uterine rupture because of her past C-section, or some kind of rupture prompting an emergent hysterectomy. I know of them by their history, and don't know them as people, but I can't imagine not only the loss of a baby mid-pregnancy but the loss of the ability to ever conceive again. That would be a whole lot to deal with. It was nice of him to honor his child with whatever he could give of him to the public.

226 days ago
45.

Patty in MN    

Love and prayers for Shayne and Nic. Nic wasn't forced to do anything; he could have said, "No thanks." Writing the letter gave him a chance to talk to his son, and by sharing the letter, publicly honored him as any obituary or funeral service would have. Losing a child is always the hardest thing a parent will ever do.

226 days ago
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