Britney: I Wear My Sunglasses at Night

136. Well at least she, or someone managing has the good sense to make certain that the people taking care of her children are professional nannies and not impressionable wanna be actresses or actors. Those children need a lot of love and attention. We don't want to see them being mistreated by their nannies a la I Saw Your Nanny.

Posted at 10:34PM on Jul 16th 2007 by isawyournanny

137. I definitely don't condone some of the things that Britney did (not wearing undergarments, shaving her head, etc.). However, I think that the media, including TMZ, and the general public should stop abusing her.

You have to walk a mile in someone else's shoes before you know what it's like to be that person. Try to be considerate and have empathy.

When I read stories about her, I feel very sad for her. She seems like a lost person who needs to find true meaning in life and people she can trust.

I could be wrong, but I think what might have happened to her is the following:
1) The career pressure: She appears to have spent most of her life trying to climb the ladder of success and she probably had very little time to enjoy herself or relax. Perhaps this pushed her to rebel and finally let loose and let it all hang out without worrying about constantly being at the top of the pop chart or beating out other competitors like Christina Aguilera. For example: She probably enjoys being able to relax, shop, vacation, and eat a lot and not having to count every calorie like she did before.
2) Lack of education: For the sake of her career, her education probably got waylaid. This is probably the reason why she acts, talks, and dresses in a very common and classless manner.
3) K-Fed: She probably married him because she thought she could relax around him and have someone to share and enjoy her life, unlike other guys really into his career like Justin Timberlake. Unfortunately, he turned out to be bad husband. His drugging, cheating, constant partying (even when she was pregnant with his children), and money-grubbing ways probably made her incredibly depressed and disillusioned in men and her plummeted her self-worth. She ruined her body to have children for this worthless man and he that's how he repaid her, I think it's enough to send a lot of women into a downward spiral (example: shaving the head incident).
4) Media vultures: All the intense media scrutiny, gossip, innuendo, exaggerations and outright lies by the media must have really messed with her psychological state. I wonder how many people can face all that craziness (I think she flashes them her privates just to play with the media's heads. It's once again, an act of rebellion.)

[Her partying life and her children]
1) Like the Pro-Britney commentators, I don't think that there's anything wrong with her having a life and having fun once in a while. She's young, single, and can afford to have a nanny, why the heck not?! Being a mom does NOT mean she has to lock herself in and have no "Me" time. Does being a mom mean that you are no longer a human being? A mom is still a woman and needs to feel like a woman and a mom is still a human who still needs to feel like a human being and enjoy herself. My married friends with kids will tell you that being able to go out once in a while is such a stress reliever, joy and blessing.
As long as the kids are being well-cared for (and it is true that kids that age go to bed by around 8 to 9 p.m.) and the mom doesn't go out too often and she is not making a fool of herself or hurting herself or others, why in the world not?

2) Those commentators who say that a mom must just be with their kids are being ignorant of the daily difficulties of being a mom (whether stay-at-home or working mom) and wish to have women in their place (barefoot, pregnant, miserable and subservient?!) Why aren't people speaking on and on about married guys with kids who do the same thing or worse? Why this double standard!

[Advice for Britney]
1) Education: Read up on or get a coach to educate yourself on proper behavior and speech. There are finishing schools and professionals who can help you. In fact, take this time to educate yourself in all subjects. Pay particular attention to English, philosophy, and culture. It will broaden your mind and make you not just a more interesting person, but a great role model for your children.
2) Dress/ Hair/ Makeup: You should read some good books on how to dress, do your hair and makeup and hire a good stylist. You are being constantly photographed in hideous outfits. You have to know what is flattering for your face, hair, and figure and what is appropriate for the occasion, whether it be a red carpet affair, stroll on the beach, or a night out on the town. It is very possible to dress sexy and sensuous but not trashy (look at Victoria Beckham, Hilary Swank, Jessica Biel, Jessica Alba). If you like sexy but classy, look into Versace, Dolce and Gabbana, Zac Posen, vintage Azzedine Alaia, Herve Leger, and other designers like them.
3) Exercise/ Diet: Although you have 2 children, it is possible for you to get back into shape, maybe not pre-baby shape, but an extreme improvement over what you are at now. Hanging onto those baby fat by not eating right and not exercising is not only harming your career and making you the butt of jokes, but is bad for your health and a bad example for your kids.
Exercise - Do an hour of cardio like the elliptical machine and 20 minutes of strength training for bout 5 times a week.
Diet - Eat only 1200 calories a day. Don't eat sugar, salt, saturated fats, etc.
Water - Drink ONLY water, none of those high calorie coffee drinks you like or even diet coke
Supplements - Take omega-3 fatty acid pills, calcium, vitamins, etc. daily
Do this for at least 3 months, and you'll probably drop 25 pounds or more.
You HAVE to be committed. No cheating, except maybe once a week for one or two meals and even then, don't over do it.
4) Spiritual/ Psychological: Go ahead and party and get it out of your system, but don't over do it and pay special attention to your spiritual and psychological state. If you don't already have a committed faith, explore different faiths to see which might help you heal and give you peace. Try seeing a psychologist to help you through your traumas.

It is true that there is no nirvana on earth, but at least try to come to terms with what ails you and give yourself peace of mind and try to create your own meaning in life that makes sense to you. At the very least, look into the beautiful eyes of your adoring sons and thank the Lord that you're enjoying another day above ground with them and that you must continue to live a fruitful and meaningful life at least for their sake.

Posted at 5:59AM on Jul 17th 2007 by Tresbellefemme