Judge to Brit -- You're Too Chaotic, Custody Denied

Posted Oct 30th 2007 5:10PM by TMZ Staff

The decision is in -- Britney Spears has not regained custody of her kids.

Issuing his order today, Commissioner Scott Gordon gave Spears three visits per week, two from 12:00 Noon to 7:00 PM and one overnight visit. The visits will be monitored.

Spears and K-Fed are ordered to figure out holiday schedules with the kids.

Britney must submit evidence that she childproofed her pool area by Friday.

In the order, the Commish wrote that when Britney has the kids, "the environment at the house ranged from chaotic to almost somber with little communication at all." The Commish also recounts what the parenting coach complained of -- that "during all three of my visits, Ms. Spears rarely engaged with the children in either conversation or play."

According to the report, the coach wrote, "It seems that [Britney's] choices are dependent more upon what she wants to do at any given time rather than what would be more enjoyable for the children."

The coach also said Spears seemed to have a "lack of general attention at times" but there was nothing she "would characterize as abusive in a traditional sense."

And then the most damning comment from the parenting coach: "The problem is that unless Ms. Spears realizes the consequences of her behavior and the impact that it has [on] her children, nothing is going to be successful."

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361. I believe that Brit has a personality disorder, such as Histrionic Personality Disorder , where the person has the need to be the center of attention at all times and feels uncomfortable is situations where he or she is not the center of attention, HPDs also use sex or physical appearance to draw attention to self.
Or she could have Narcissitic Personality Disorder- a grandiose sense of self-importance, preoccupied with success, belief they are special and should only hang out with other high-status people, and has a sense of entitlement.
I think these diagnosis fit her better that Bi-polar.
What do you all think?

Posted at 3:09PM on Oct 31st 2007 by Cyn

362. I know Brittney has made many mistakes, but I blame her parents for throwing her to the wolves at such a young age. I wish the press would just leave her a lone and give her some peace, They make K-Fed like a saint. Child-proof the house- Excuse me, but wasn't gold digging K-Fed living in that house when she had her first child? K-Fed had children from a previous relationship and he knows nothing about child-proofing a home? I'm sure it wasn't K-Fed feeding the kids while living with Brittney. It's not right to put it all on Brit. But I wish Brit would just slow down and stay under the radar. Glad her CD is rockin'- Stay strong Brit

Posted at 4:22PM on Oct 31st 2007 by Carjacker

363. YOUR SITE TAKES A STORY AND TOTALY KILLS IT!! CAN YOU PLEASE FIND SOME REAL NEWS TO TALK ABOUT.WE ARE ALL A LIL SICK OF THE SAME BRIT STORY OVER AND OVER AND OVER AND OVER AND OVER AND OVER AND OVER AND OVER AND OVER. YOU REALY NEED TO HIRE NEW WRITERS FOR YOUR SITE. THIS IS JUST LIKE THE PARIS IN JAIL STORIES. MOVE ON PLEEEEEEEEEASE!!!!! YOUR SITE IS PATHETIC!!!!

Posted at 4:25PM on Oct 31st 2007 by BOSCO

364. Britney, Bitch, Plz.! Fix your extentsions, act like you want to wear panties & drink more than RedBull, & Hell No, you don't have a following, TMZ is just trying to make you feel good!

Posted at 5:12PM on Oct 31st 2007 by Valencia

365. ALL YOU DIEHARD FANS OF THIS WHACKOJOB HAVE GOTTA BE INSANE YOURSELVES...SHE IS THE MOST DISLIKED CELEB RITE NOW...

Posted at 5:33PM on Oct 31st 2007 by this is KELLIE...IN LOS ANGELES,CA.

366. why give the bimbo advice? she is an adult...and should know better

Posted at 5:36PM on Oct 31st 2007 by this is KELLIE...IN LOS ANGELES,CA.

367. Y ALL BETTER LEAVE ME ALONE! IM A GOOD MOM 2 MY BOYS. I HAVE ALOT OF TALENT Y ALL....AND IM DOING JUST GREAT. Y ALL ARE SO DAMN JEALOUS!

Posted at 6:10PM on Oct 31st 2007 by MISS BRITNEY SPEARS

368. BRITNEY IS THE MOST SEXY OF ALL CELEBS..AND SO TALENTED!

Posted at 6:16PM on Oct 31st 2007 by HAPPY HALLOWEEN

369. I PERSONALLY THINK SHE IS GREAT.LIKE HER MUSIC.I THINK WE ALL SHOULD LEAVE HER ALONE.TOU PAPARAZZI...TOO!

Posted at 7:09PM on Oct 31st 2007 by MICHELLE,IN OHIO

370. Imagine the damage she has caused already to the boys. It's a shame someone did not intervene on their part, sooner.

Posted at 7:54PM on Oct 31st 2007 by coco

371. Listen, listen, listen to me!!!!! Britney does not want to have custody of her children!!! That is precisely why she continues to act like an idiot infant!!!! Please don't buy her any of her music or watch her videos. She can be put completely out of business!!! We, the consumers have the power to do that!!! It is not as though we are going to be depriving ourselves of some great talent. Her talent has basically been just manufactured from early on. She can't sing, nor can she dance!!! I will admit I did have some sympathy for initially, but now it just turns my stomach to even look at her!!!

Posted at 10:40PM on Oct 31st 2007 by Not Fooled

372. . On pool-proofing...what do people who live near rivers, lakes, streams, and ponds do? Some celeb sites also included the good comments: that Hacker said it was very clear Britney loved her kids and that she and her children were bonded. I think the Judge is not taking the kids' best interests at heart. I don't think Hacker is either. It's sad to read Britney didn't spend every hour playing with the kids, in games they wanted to play, but if she did her own thing, what exactly was that? Hacker doesn't say. I was the kid's favorite babysitter. But the fun only began when the parents were gone--I didn't like feeling like I was being watched and critiqued or monitored. It is POSSIBLE this is also how Spears felt. Also, there are two of them. Sometimes, kids interact with eachother and play together more than with the parent. Having a parent nearby is sometimes enough comfort on its own. Those boys have been hearing their mother's voice and have been in her presence, since they were in the womb. Do they care if she did drugs or drank when she was out, away from them? They probably never knew. Spears has been labled a habitual drug-user, but no one, not even Scott Gordon, has said she did this while she was with the kids. In some countries, like the Netherlands, many people smoke pot or do other light drugs on occasion and it's not considered a problem, or a sign of bad parenting, unless someone is addicted, abusive, or takes it around, or out on the kids. We are dealing with cultural constructs; social constructs here. In the US, any form of drug use, even minimal and even if it's away from the kids, is considered to be incongruent with good parenting.

I don't use drugs, and I've 15 years childcare experience; I have even loved others' kids like my own. For some reason, kids have been drawn to me, all my life. Why? I like to think that's it's because I try to treat them with the same respect I give adults (or, probably, more) and I also try to get down to their level.

If we apply this same philosophy to "what is in the best interest of the kids", we might be able to look past our own judgments about Britney's personal problems and "chaos", and start putting ourselves into the KID'S shoes. I think everyone, including Gordon, is looking at this from the wrong angle. When he's looking down, from the judge's seat, he can see Britney is below him and his standards, but he can't even look into the eyes of the kids; in fact, they're not even there. So he ends up judging Britney and what is best for HER, and getting sidetracked from what these kids are really feeling and going through. Imagine the thoughts of these kid's--in their shoes: ..."I feel sad that my mommy isn't around as much. I notice she tries not to cry when she's around me, and she gives me a big hug. I have been listening to my mommy's voice since before I was born and I nestled against her warm breasts for my food. I never felt as safe as I did when I was held close by mommy. I heard her singing, watched her dance, and heard her praying for me. Sometimes it was okay that mommy didn't talk to me or play with me--as long as she was nearby or in the same room, I felt secure and played on my own. When I was bored, mommy took me out to someplace new. I liked going for car rides and like watching her drive. I pay special attention so I can try it one day. I love my daddy, but I love my mommy just as much...maybe more right now, because mommy carried me inside and I'm still little. I am clingy with daddy now because I'm afraid he might leave me too, or see me less. If I am really good, maybe he won't go anywhere. Nobody understands me. They think I'm too little for complex feelings but I wish I could talk. I can't even tell anyone how I feel. I've heard people say mommy isn't very good, and that she has problems, and doesn't dress right, and parties, but I've never seen her partying. I guess my mommy is in a lot of trouble and I'm worried. I remember one day, not very long ago, somebody said rehab and mommy was upset and then she was gone. I didn't see mommy at all for a whole month. I have never been so sad before. I tried to hide it because I was afraid daddy would leave me too if I was bad. mommy used to dance with me before my bedtime, when it was dark, with the lights out, and she would waltz around the room singing to me...sometimes she had a drink with dinner and I could smell alcohol on her breath but I didn't care. My mommy loved me. I KNOW my mommy loves me and I love her. Why don't they understand? Other people come and go but my mommy and daddy were always there for me. My mommy doesn't have me on a schedule because every day is different. Sometimes I feel tired at 8 p.m., and other nights I can't sleep until 11 p.m. Mommy let me stay up late a few times and then we all slept in! That was fun...Now I never get to see mommy. Why doesn't she want to be around me more? Does my mommy not like me as much now? Sometimes my nanny plays with me, and she sings and talks to me and she's really fun. But nobody is like my mommy. I feel safe even when mommy isn't saying a word. If my nanny and my mommy are in the same room together, I always walk over to mommy first. I don't care if mommy is doing her hair and make-up or dressing up, I want to be next to her. I am a mama's boy. will somebody tell that judge how i feel...for me? Please please please God, help somebody to see things my way. i know mommy is different, but my life is different too. when we go out in public, i don't see lots of people around the OTHER kids. they always take my picture and try to talk to me and i kind of like it. if i were old enough to talk, i would tell everybody that i want to see my mommy as much as i get to see daddy. my mommy and me...we understand eachother. maybe my mommy has problems, but they've never been MY problems. Mommy's always been the same and this is what i know. That lady Hacker said we love eachother and are bonded. separation breaks or distresses a bond. This is hurting me and I can't even talk about it. I'm trying to find other ways to comfort and distract myself. Maybe someone is trying to teach mommy a lesson? but why does it have to hurt me?

Posted at 12:48AM on Nov 1st 2007 by defender of the femme

373. Right on Commish...& I bet you haven't even listened to or viewed her latest music...She just can't stay away from provocative behavior, it's ok, if it's just in your music, but, when you can't separate work life, from REAL-life, there's something wrong! Britney, please grow-up & take some resonsibility for this media cicus, that you've created by putting ALL your business out in the public for ALL of us to see & hear about.

Posted at 5:09PM on Nov 1st 2007 by Amy

374. I have been looking the other way when Brit does something stupid, but not even careing about your own children! She is not a mother, a mother would never do what she does.

She doesn't kabalah anymore.. its Brittany's mentally ill cult...where the earth actually revolves around her... people just don't know it yet....

Posted at 5:12PM on Nov 2nd 2007 by Kris

375. Our nephew drowned in the back yard pool. He was 5 years old. He was riding his little trike around the pool and his pants leg got stuck on the peddle. He lived on life support for 6 months before his body gave up. That was a tortuous time for my sister-in-law and the whole family bore the guilt. I can't stand the idea that rich bitch Brittany Spears is such a flake she wont even child proof her pool area. My nephew died 25 years ago. There has been plenty of stats since then of children drowning in back yard pools. She MUST know. She just doesn't care

Posted at 2:26AM on Nov 3rd 2007 by sabrinacle273

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