Celebrity Feuds
Candy to Tori: Get Real, Baby

Candy & Tori SpellingCandy Spelling -- the mother famously at war with her daughter -- has taken the bold step of communicating with Tori Spelling through TMZ ... and her opening line isn't gonna get her a lot of invites. Here's the open letter in all its glory:

EXCLUSIVE TO: TMZ.COM
TO: MIDDLE-AGED REALITY SHOW STARS (LIKE MY DAUGHTER)
FROM: CANDY SPELLING

I Know many middle-aged people have issues about their parents and their upbringing. I did. My memories didn't match all those of my mother, and, funny thing, it's the same way with my daughter.

Life has consequences. What you say is on the record. Other people have feelings.


I have a vested interest in this subject. My daughter, Tori's, two-part season finale revolves around my granddaughter's first birthday party and how she has made what seems like an agonizing decision to invite me.

Cue music. Cue sideways glances. Cue Lights.

I did get an invitation just in time for the RSVP deadline. I'm sure its delivery will be on next week's episode with some comment about my house or driveway or street or something they won't like. I wonder if that will be spread out over one part or two. Sigh.

A big party wasn't how I envisioned meeting my granddaughter for the first time; but, hey, this is Hollywood, and my grandchildren have become reality show props, too. At the time I emailed "yes," I didn't realize I was being set up for a two-parter, even though it was clear I was being invited to be part of a segment for my daughter's reality show.

Spoiler alert. Don't read this if you plan to sit through an hour of people looking at their watches and saying "she's late." I decided my first meeting with my granddaughter should be on home video, not primetime cable; so I emailed that I would not be attending.

Back to other reality stars. My husband taught me that the plots have to be fresh and updated. The same old whining gets tired after a while. Enough complaining about what may or may not have happened during first grade or YMCA camp, or what vegetable you were forced to endure, especially when you are privileged enough to be on TV and get paid for it.

For all the reality show personalities, please remember that real life doesn't get edited to make things better or worse or get better ratings. You're responsible for what you do. Life isn't just a show. And your families can't just be props. Make your own season finale without creating conflicts you will regret later.

Tags: candy spelling, CandySpelling, tori spelling, ToriSpelling

Relevant Posts

Reader Comments

(Page 1 of 118) | 1 | 2 | 3 | 4 | 5 | Most Recent | Next 15 Comments

1. Well, maybe if Tori had gotten some decent $$$ from her late father's estate she wouldn't be whoring herself and her kids out. And maybe if Candy didn't have such a big stick up her ass she would be a decent grandmother.

Posted at 1:30AM on Jul 26th 2009 by Walter

2. good for her! she's right, tori's show has just been dragging on and on about the whole "my mommy won't see my kids" whatever, why should her first meeting with her granddaughter be televised, why has'nt tori driven her kids to her mom's house before? GROW UP TORI SPELLING your the reason your kids have not seen their grandmother, GET IN YOUR CAR AND DRIVE OVER THERE WITHOUT THE CAMERA'S... and tell your husband to get better jobs so you can stop pimping your kids out!

Posted at 1:36AM on Jul 26th 2009 by boredwiththis

3. GOOD FOR CANDY. TORI'S A SPOLIED BRAT, AND HER OTHER'S TIRED OF PLAYING GAMES WITH HER. DON'T LEAVE YOUR MONEY TO HER CANDY...YOU KNOW THAT'S WHAT HER HUSBAND IS WAITING FOR!

Posted at 1:33AM on Jul 26th 2009 by LUCI LIU2

4. hey walter! dumbass, parents are not obligated to leave their children anything! maybe he wanted her to make a living jus like he had to, instead of getting it handed to her

Posted at 1:36AM on Jul 26th 2009 by boredwiththis

5. Dear Mrs. Spelling,

Both you and your daughter's behaviour is disgraceful. Your daughter has a perfectly charming reality program. Unfortunately as a product of a hollywood upbringing and today's reality show morals she doesn't realize HOW incredibly hurtful and inapropriate that discussion is for the show.

Your contacting TMZ is a bigger low and telling the press that you thought Tori's behaviour hastened your husbands passing was EQUALLY CLASSLESS.

So the apple hasn't fallen far from the tree. This is most likely some weird mother daughter c ompetition. The last episode of your daughter's show I watched discussed how many good memories of you she has.

Both of you need to seize the good and genuinely move forward. Frankly I think your behavious is a little less mature.

Your daughter was left 600K. She is earning her living with this show and books honorably. Not running around like Lindsay Lohan and Paris Hilton clubbing etc or posing for playboy.

I think you as the parent with a greater sense of how quickly time flies should TRY TO be the bigger person.
Frankly if my mother emailed TMZ I would never, never, never speak to her again.

Sorry Candy...no sympathy

(and I was never a 90210 fan learned to enjoy your daughter with her reality faux reality shows)

Posted at 1:17PM on Jul 28th 2009 by MOM IS OUT OF LINE

6. The mother (Candy) needs to be the bigger person. She's older, and theoretically should know more. What if Tori or, God forbid, one of the grandchildren died tomorrow. How would you feel, Candy? Call your daughter.

Posted at 1:40AM on Jul 26th 2009 by aMomToo

7. Tori Spelling is a spoiled little bitch. But at the end, one has to ask, "Who spiled her?"

Posted at 1:56AM on Jul 26th 2009 by Paparazzo@frog.cc

8. Tori is one ugly B*tch !!

Posted at 3:22AM on Jul 26th 2009 by ugly as hail

9. Hey mom, get a hobby or something ok?

Posted at 1:56AM on Jul 26th 2009 by squeakermama

10. i am glad i found out if she is gonna show or not!! i was kinda wondering

thanks TMZ and Candy Spelling!

Posted at 1:59AM on Jul 26th 2009 by kitty

11. Sorry but both of these women need to get a clue and grow up.

Posted at 1:59AM on Jul 26th 2009 by JSS

12. Oh, how weird. I didn't realize that middle age is now one's 30s. So, Candy is elderly, by default? Anyway, no stake in this catfight...both are overmonied, umm, folks.

Posted at 1:59AM on Jul 26th 2009 by lis

13. Tori is MIDDLE AGED? Wow. Can Candy become any more out of touch? And why the hell do you email your daughter to tell her you can't come to the party when she was practically in the MIDDLE of the party! Ever heard of a telephone?

Posted at 2:01AM on Jul 26th 2009 by Muzzles

14. Hey Candi-

You need to suck it up and do it on your daughters terms. Not yours. I
am guessing your not used to that.

Sounds like you may never know your grandchildren.....

Posted at 5:56PM on Jul 26th 2009 by TakeItEasy

15. Candy needs to act her age.

Posted at 6:40PM on Jul 27th 2009 by Oh Brother

| 1 | 2 | 3 | 4 | 5 | Most Recent | Next 15 Comments