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Against Me! Singer

I'm a Woman Trapped

in a Man's Body

5/9/2012 6:30 AM PDT BY TMZ STAFF
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The lead singer of the band Against Me! -- famous for their hit "I Was a Teenage Anarchist" -- tells Rolling Stone he's becoming a woman ... but he's NOT attracted to men.

According to the magazine, 31-year-old Tom Gabel says he has a condition called gender dysphoria ... just like Chaz Bono (except in reverse) ... and has questioned his sexual identity since he was a kid.

Tom says he will take hormones and undergo electrolysis to help his transformation into a woman ... and is considering undergoing surgery to aid in the process.

Gabel tells the magazine his new name will be Laura Jane Grace.

Despite the transformation, Tom says he's NOT attracted to men ... and will still be married to his wife ... with whom he shares a 2-year-old daughter.



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xirnibor    

it's an interesting article, because he was man and wife. if he is legally changed to a she, i wonder if the state they were married in will still recognize the union...

805 days ago
17.

TMP    

This sounds weird. I don't care that he's becoming a woman... whatever... but his wife is obviously not a lesbian, but now... will be since he's considering going through the surgery. I know that love is blind, but that's a huge change in the relationship.

805 days ago
18.

matt    

What does this mean for Against Me! This is insanity!

805 days ago
19.

Delaware D    

Reality show!!!

805 days ago
20.

Daniel    

So basically he's taking his issues and passing even worse ones on to his child. Lovely father/mother/whatever.

805 days ago
21.

Jay W.     

Tom... it's called counseling.

805 days ago
22.

david    

first... its just nasty and wrong...second i feel sorry for his wife and God forbid he have any kids...i hope not

805 days ago
23.

shewentwhoa    

no not Tom.

805 days ago
24.

Jay    

Just to clarify a few things for all the commenters who are clearly ignorant about transgender issues:
- It's actually pretty common that men who transition to women are attracted to women. They might identify as a lesbian, they might not. Who cares?
- We have no idea what the wife's sexual orientation was before the transition (She might be bisexual), but again, who cares? It's her choice to stay in the marriage or not, and we have no idea about the details of what's going on in their private life.
- Children are actually much more understanding of transitioning than adults are. It actually doesn't take much to explain it to them and for them to accept it. The only problems they face are when they go out into the world of judgmental a-holes.
- Yes, he will be getting therapy before he transitions. Anyone who goes through a transition actually has to go through a rigorous screening process before they transition. While Gender Identity Disorder is considered a mental illness, the standard treatment among psychologists and medical experts is to transition to the preferred gender -- and this comes from people who have studies these issues extensively, so please don't assume you know better than them.
- Not everyone who transitions goes through surgery. Yes, sometimes a woman can have a penis, get over it.
- And their marriage will still be recognized even if they live in a state that does not allow same-sex marriage. The only problem I've heard about people transitioning during their marriage is that sometimes it's harder to get a divorce since now they're considered a same-sex couple.

805 days ago
25.

Jay    

Just to clarify a few things for all the commenters who are clearly ignorant about transgender issues:
- It's actually pretty common that men who transition to women are attracted to women. They might identify as a lesbian, they might not. Who cares?
- We have no idea what the wife's sexual orientation was before the transition (She might be bisexual), but again, who cares? It's her choice to stay in the marriage or not, and we have no idea about the details of what's going on in their private life.
- Children are actually much more understanding of transitioning than adults are. It actually doesn't take much to explain it to them and for them to accept it. The only problems they face are when they go out into the world of judgmental a-holes.
- And their marriage will still be recognized even if they live in a state that does not allow same-sex marriage. The only problem I've heard about people transitioning during their marriage is that sometimes it's harder to get a divorce since now they're considered a same-sex couple.

805 days ago
26.

Yeti Lee    

Maybe Chaz and Tom can work out some kind of a deal since they both want what the other has.

805 days ago
27.

Arizona    

Weird and a little outta left field? Yes. Reason for everyone to say they feel "sorry" for his family? No. Why would we force pity upon someone who is doing this to make themselves happy? Now a days people are strange, lets be accepting of it cause it makes this world a little more fun and a little more of an oddity.

805 days ago
28.

commanderoffabulous    

Well...at least now we know how ignorant the majority of these readers are. Educate yourselves on transgender issues before you comment.

805 days ago
29.

lissabirdie    

So does that make his wife a Lesbian?

805 days ago
30.

Kellie    

It takes a lot of courage to be your true self, especially in this world filled with discrimination, hatred & bigotry. Kudos to her!!

805 days ago
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