Celebrity Divorce

One of the big reasons Arnold Schwarzenegger didn't give Maria Shriver an advance copy of his autobiography is that he intends to keep all of the money he makes from it ... sources connected with the couple tell TMZ.

Even though Arnold and Maria were together 34 years and married for 25 and a good chunk of the book is about their relationship ... we're told Arnold has made it clear to her ... the book is HIS, and she will not be getting any part of his multi-million dollar advance or any royalties.

And there's more on the money front ... We're told Arnold has been extremely tough in negotiating a financial settlement with Maria -- one source says, "Arnold has been really stingy with Maria and the kids, which is amazing considering what he did."

And here's the most shocking part ... Sources tell us as recently as last week, Arnold asked Maria to take him back. We're told ... she's not biting.

Arnold's rep told TMZ ... the divorce settlement negotiations are ongoing so no agreement has been struck.

Arnold Schwarzenegger is out hawking his autobiography, so he knows something about words ... and the one word he WON'T use to describe his affair with the maid is "BETRAYAL."

In an interview on "60 Minutes" which will air Sunday, Lesley Stahl said to Arnold ...

"She gave up her television career for you. I mean, wow, was this the most unbelievable act of betrayal to Maria?"

Arnold would not acknowledge Stahl's question. Instead he deflected by saying, "I think it was the stupidest thing I've done in the whole relationship. It was terrible I inflicted tremendous pain on Maria and unbelievable pain on the kids."

And it's even worse. Arnold has not even shown the book to Maria. When Stahl asked if she knew what Arnold had written, all he would say was, "She knows that it's about my whole life."

Watch out ladies ... country singer k.d. lang is BACK ON THE MARKET -- TMZ has learned, her domestic partnership has officially been dissolved.

The judgment was entered last week -- eight months after lang filed docs to end her nearly 2-year partnership with Jamie Price.

The couple met back in 2003 through a Buddhist teacher -- and registered for a domestic partnership in 2009.

According to the settlement agreement, both sides have waived rights to partner support -- and agree to a clean division of property ... k.d. takes what's hers (earnings, bank accounts, car, houses), Jamie takes what's hers (not that much).

Adrienne Maloof's estranged husband Paul Nassif will finally get to see his kids again ... because a judge just granted him two visits with them, before a massive custody hearing next month.

The judge agreed to let Paul see his children during monitored visits on September 29th and October 6th.

The whole matter will be settled on October 9th, when the judge has scheduled a custody hearing to decide once and for all whether Paul should get partial custody.

As we reported, Paul went to court today armed with a report from the Department of Children and Family Services that says he never abused the kids -- despite allegations from Adrienne, who claimed Paul choked one child and struck another.

In addition to the DCFS report, Paul filed a declaration addressing each of Adrienne's allegations.

Regarding the bathroom incident, when Adrienne claimed Paul struck one of their children for peeing on his brother in the bath -- Paul says it's BS ... he simply picked the child up and (gently) directed the boy to the toilet.

And the other allegation -- that Paul choked one of the kids in his Escalade ... Paul claims it's physically impossible for him to reach his children in the giant car from the driver's seat, so that's bogus too.

Paul also claims the declaration from the family psychiatrist Dr. Charles Sophy -- supposedly confirming the alleged abuse -- is a concoction of lies. Paul claims Sophy not only betrayed his trust by going behind his back with the declaration ... but never even tried to get Paul's side of things.

And there's this too -- according to Paul, Adrienne is now threatening to fire any family employee who supports Paul in the divorce. Paul claims Adrienne's already fired the family's head of security for saying Paul's a good dad.

Adrienne Maloof has accused Paul Nassif of brutalizing their 3 boys ... and even though the Department of Children and Family Services has determined the allegations are bogus, Paul still wants Adrienne to be a big part of the kids' lives.

Paul's position is especially stunning, given that Adrienne got a court order last week prohibiting him from even seeing the boys. We broke the story ... Paul is going to court this morning to get that order lifted, but he's telling friends he will not hurt the kids to spite his estranged wife. Paul says his kids need a mom and a dad, so he will ask for a temporary joint custody order.

Paul says, "I just want this crap to stop. We need to be co-parents, no matter how we feel about each other."

There are limits, however, to Paul's tolerance. He'll ask the judge today for an order sanctioning Adrienne for falsely accusing him of child abuse.

As we first reported, the Department of Children and Family Services has written a report saying the child abuse allegations against Paul are "unfounded" ... calling into question a report by psychiatrist Charles Sophy, who concluded Paul hit the boys.

TMZ has learned ... the Department of Children and Family Services has determined Adrienne Maloof's child abuse claims against estranged hubby Paul Nassif are unfounded, and Paul will go to court tomorrow to get his kids back.

As we first reported, Adrienne went to court last week, claiming Paul choked one of their kids and struck another. Adrienne submitted declarations by several people, including Dr. Charles Sophy, who claims he interviewed the boys and they verified the abuse.

But we've learned DCFS strongly disagrees. Sources tell us DCFS has written a report -- after interviewing the boys -- categorically concluding there was no such abuse.

Sources tell TMZ ... Paul is going to court Wednesday to ask a judge to throw out the temporary custody order -- along with the order prohibiting Paul from going near his kids -- on grounds Adrienne phonied the claim.

ATTENTION RESIDENTS OF BIKINI BOTTOM ... Patrick Star has filed for legal separation from his wife ... and by Patrick Star we mean the guy who voices him on "Spongebob Squarepants."

Actor Bill Fagerbakke -- who also played Dauber on "Coach" back in the day -- filed the separation docs in L.A. County Superior Court, citing "irreconcilable differences."

Bill and his wife Catherine McClenahan (also an actor) were married in 1989 and separated last year. They have no minor children.

According to the docs, Bill wants spousal support.

Arnold Schwarzenegger says his estranged wife Maria Shriver confronted him about his secret love child during a couple's therapy session and that she'd suspected for years ... according to his new book ... but the good news -- Arnold assured Maria he was still "turned on" by her.

In the book, obtained by the New York Daily News, Arnold says Maria took him to couple's therapy in 2011 -- the day after he left the California governorship. He believed he was there for routine marriage counseling -- instead, Maria asked him point blank if he slept with the maid and spawned a love child years before.

Arnold admits, at first, he made a slew of excuses to his wife -- but then copped to everything: cheating, the secret child and supporting his baby mama financially ... calling it a huge screw up.

Before Arnold fessed up Maria intimated the maid had already told her.

Deion Sanders is furious that a judge ordered him to pay up over $10,000/month in child support to his estranged wife Pilar ... claiming it's simply not fair.

Sanders just filed docs in Texas Supreme Court challenging the support order that was established in a lower court back in May.

In his docs, Sanders says $10k/month is actually SIX TIMES more than Texas law requires ... and he wants his child support obligation significantly reduced.

But Pilar claims Deion is worth roughly $250 MILLION ... and the TX Supreme Court shouldn't have any sympathy for Prime Time ... or change the support structure that's already in place.

In fact, Pilar has filed her own legal docs outlining why she needs so much cash from Deion. Among the highlights:  
-- $2,000/month for a special diet for the kids
-- $900/month on uniforms and shoes for the kids' sports activities
-- $500/ month on the children's cell phones

Pilar also claims she spends $450 on haircuts for her sons and treatments for her daughter's "very thick curly hair."

Style doesn't come cheap.

Pilar's lawyer tells TMZ, "Once again, Mr. Sanders has not followed the Court's direct orders and has attempted to make up his own rules. It is clear that he still thinks he is "above the law."

Scorpions drummer James Kottak claims his ex-wife is an alcoholic who isn't fit to raise their 15-year-old son ... but she says the rocker is lying in a pathetic effort to reduce his child support payment.

Kottak filed legal docs this month asking a judge to change a July 2011 ruling that gave his ex Athena Lee (Tommy Lee's little sis) primary custody of their teenage son AND ordered him to cough up $1,466 / month in child support and another $1,738 / month in spousal support.

In the docs, filed in L.A. County Superior Court, Kottak claims their son has been living with him 100% of the time since January 2012, when the teenager had a falling out with his mother. Kottack claims Athena has been in and out of rehab for alcohol addiction.

Kottak -- who was married to Athena from 1996 to 2010 -- says he deserves primary physical custody with Athena getting visitation rights. He also wants the court to reduce his child support payments.

The drummer also specifies that his income -- listed at $12,000 month -- isn't set in stone because his contract with the Scorpions has yet to be renewed.

Kottak claims his wife on the other hand makes plenty of money ($3,100 month) and has the potential to pull in $80k / year as a surgical nurse -- so he wants his spousal support cut down too.

But Athena says the rocker is spewing lies -- claiming she's been sober since January 13, 2012 and is allowing her son to live with Kottak so he can stay in his school district.

"He's trying everything he can to knock me down," Athena says ... adding, " It's only about the money to James."

"Real Housewives of Beverly Hills" star Lisa Vanderpump finds it difficult to believe Paul Nassif choked one of his children -- telling TMZ, Adrienne Maloof's estranged husband "always looked like an amazing father to me."

You'll recall, Adrienne has obtained a temporary restraining order against Paul on behalf of their children, after claiming he choked and spanked them. Adrienne was awarded temporary custody of the couple's kids the same day. (FYI -- Paul wasn't present at the hearing to defend himself because he wasn't told about it.)

But yesterday in Beverly Hills, Adrienne's co-star Lisa found it all hard to swallow -- insisting she always knew Paul to be a good dad.

For Paul's part, he tells TMZ, Adrienne's allegations are "utterly false" and he plans to vigorously defend himself in court.

Paul says, "It is becoming a bit of a circus isn't it? The phrase 'all is fair in love and war' must have been penned by a divorce attorney."

Still, he adds, "I'm going to stay utterly focused on [my children's] well-being and the knowledge they need equal time with both of their parents both of whom love them very much. I'm sure all will be fine and when all the emotion of the moment dies down, Adrienne and I will be terrific co-parents."

"Real Housewives of Beverly Hills" star Adrienne Maloof and her estranged husband Paul Nassif are scrapping more than just each other -- they're also chopping their multi-million-dollar Beverly Hills mansion ... listing the property for sale.

Adrienna and Paul listed the 20,000 sq. ft. home recently -- a French chateau-style estate featured on the reality show with 8 bedrooms and 11 baths.

Maloof and Nassif purchased the home in 2004 for $12.7 million. It's now listed for $26 million, more than double what they bought if for.

Sources close to Adrienne tell TMZ, she okay'd the listing because "she just needs to make a change."

People close to Paul say it was a joint decision to sell the house -- and has nothing to do with Adrienne obtaining temporary child custody.

Adrienne Maloof's estranged husband, Dr. Paul Nassif, has been ordered by the court to stay away from Adrienne and their three children ... TMZ has learned.

TMZ obtained a copy of the the temporary restraining order -- granted yesterday -- which requires Nassif to stay at least 100 yards away from Adrienne and their boys.

The order also states Nassif must stay away from Adrienne's home and the children's school.

Adrienne's TRO request was granted by the same judge who gave Adrienne temporary custody of their children yesterday.

As TMZ first reported ... Adrienne accused Paul of spanking and choking the children in her request for temporary custody.

A hearing is scheduled for October 9th to decide whether the TRO and custody orders will be made permanent.

Kelsey Grammer allegedly just stormed out of CNN's studios in NYC moments before his scheduled interview with Piers Morgan -- and according to Morgan, it was all because producers aired a pic of Kelsey's ex-wife at the start of the show.

Morgan took to Twitter to explain Kelsey's absence tonight, writing, "Kelsey Grammer was supposed to be on my show now but ran out of the building. Strange."

He continued, "Kelsey Grammer saw a photo of his ex wife Camille in the open to our show and legged it. Extraordinary. Never had this happen before."

"I had a very friendly chat with Kelsey backstage. He said he was really looking forward to the interview. Weird."

He added, "I like Kelsey Grammer personally, but this was a shockingly unprofessional thing to do. I wasn't even going to mention his ex-wife!"

Adrienne Maloof was just awarded temporary custody of her three boys after telling a judge her estranged husband, Paul Nassif, choked one of their kids last Thursday ... TMZ has learned.

Adrienne's lawyer went to court and filed a declaration she wrote, in which she claimed Paul picked their 3 boys up from school Thursday. During the ride, 2 of the boys were kicking each other, when Paul allegedly reached back and choked one of the boys around the Adam's apple.

According to a separate declaration, filed by Adrienne, one of the boys told a psychiatrist ... Paul smacked him on his "wet bare bottom" because he had peed on his sibling in the bath, and then sent him to the corner for a time-out.

The couple's chef also filed a declaration, claiming he witnessed Paul kicking the family dog when it peed on the floor. And a DEA agent who is friends with the couple filed yet another declaration claiming he witnessed Paul putting his hands around the neck of one of the children.

Neither Paul nor his lawyer were present during the hearing -- they were never told about the hearing -- although we know Paul denies ALL of the allegations.

Ben Vereen has filed for divorce from his wife of 36 years ... TMZ has learned.

The Tony-Award winning Broadway legend -- who also starred as Chicken George in "Roots" -- just filed the papers in L.A. County Superior Court ... hoping to end his union with longtime wife Nancy Bruner.

The two were married back in 1976 after meeting on the set of a play -- they have several children, but they are all adults ... so child support isn't an issue.

As for spousal support, Ben doesn't think he should have to pay that either.

In the docs, Vereen blames the split on irreconcilable differences ... and says they split back in March.