Real Housewives

TMZ has obtained the first picture that shows "Real Housewives of Atlanta" star Kim Zolciak with her infamous sugar daddy -- better known as "Big Poppa" -- although "big" seems a bit ironic.

The photo was taken last November at the Hotel Atlantis in the Bahamas -- because real ladies don't stay at the Ramada.

It's gonna be a rough season of filming -- "Real Housewife of Atlanta" Kim Zolciak is saying NeNe Leakes got a hold of her throat not once, but twice during their now infamous confrontation.

We just got off the phone with Zolciak, who supplied some unknown details about the widely reported throwdown between her and her co-star. Kim says Bravo suggested the two meet up that day to hammer out their issues -- but instead of working anything out, Kim just got choked out.

Zolciak also says she lost her breath for a minute and a half as NeNe choked her ... the first time. Moments later, according to Kim, NeNe went for the neck again -- and producers had to step in to safely escort Kim to her car. That's when Kim filed a police report.

Taking one for the team, Kim says she didn't file a restraining order so filming of the show could continue. She tells us "Violence is unacceptable, this has definitely changed my life. I wish NeNe would be humble enough to apologize."

Slade Smiley must hit like a "Real Housewife of Orange County" -- because it took some guy a whole week to realize Slade even (allegedly) hit him. Or at least that's what we're guessing.

Laguna Beach PD is looking into an altercation Slade allegedly got into at a friend's birthday party back on July 15.

Law enforcement told us that "there was a pushing and shoving match" that led to the other guy leaving the party. The hotel where the party was being held did not call the cops that night and neither did the other guy ... until eight days later.

We're told it's an open investigation.

Downside: Josh Waring was arrested again for possession of narcotics and drug paraphernalia. Upside: This time his mother, Lauri Waring of "Real Housewives of Orange County," wasn't the one who turned him in.

Josh was busted at 2:30 PM today at his home in Orange County and is currently being booked in an OC jail.

Waring was sentenced to 240 days back in September of '08 for possession of heroin and ecstasy and an intent to sell -- after his mother found the drugs and contacted the police.

He was released in February but is still on probation -- so he's pretty much screwed.

"Real Housewives of New Jersey" star Danielle Staub has no problem putting the most intimate moments of her life on display for the world to see -- except for when she's getting intimate.

Staub is trying to block the release of a sex tape her former boyfriend is trying to sell. Her lawyer filed a complaint today in Passaic County Superior Court alleging Stephen Zalewski, who also appeared on the reality show, invaded her privacy and has caused her and her young daughters emotional distress.

Also causing Staub's young children emotional distress -- seeing their mother on "Real Housewives of New Jersey."

Zalewski told Star magazine, "I'm definitely weighing my options as far as selling [the tapes] and getting them out there ... She cost me so much money, why shouldn't I make a few dollars?"

On last night's ridiculous season finale, dishes flew, one called the other a "prostitute whore" and a table was nearly tossed over.

P.S. -- Did we mention some of the ladies' kids were around? "Real" classy.

Bensimon was arrested in March after allegedly giving boytoy BF Nicholas Stefanov a black eye and sliced cheek in an argument at her Manhattan pad.

Outside court today, Bensimon claimed she was only protecting her family and "justice was served" -- but inside, the judge ruled that while Kelly can contact her ex, she can't harm or threaten him in any way.

Kelly's misdemeanor assault charges will be wiped clean if she completes her service and keeps out of trouble for a year.

One of them is known to act uncivilized.

We're just sayin'.

The "Real Housewife of New York" (right) and "Gossip Girl's" Zuzanna Szadkowski (common spelling) were spotted together at the Do Something Awards Thursday night in NYC.

How nice of Blair to give her right hand woman a night off.

Real Housewife of Orange County Lauri Waring is demanding more cash from her ex husband -- and it's probably because she claims to only make 400 bucks a month.

In legal papers filed in Orange County Superior Court, Waring claims she has over $12,000 in expenses per month, and the money she's already getting from Phillip Waring just ain't cuttin' it.

Lauri claims she's tryin' to help out, stating in the docs that she's working two jobs -- insurance agent and actress. Yeah, actress. Right.

BTW -- Lauri estimates Phil pulls in around $360,000 a year.

UPDATE: We just talked to Lauri, who gave us a completely different side to this story. Lauri says her ex is the one trying to modify how much money she's getting -- not her -- meaning he doesn't wanna pay her at all any more. She says because of this, she had to turn in an expense report -- which is the document that said she only makes 400 bones a month.